Suffering from mental cruelty caused by my wife
I got married in December, 2018 and in just 4 months my wife tortured me mentally a lot.
1. Before marriage she used to talk to me normally no problem at all, later on she told me that every time she used to talk to me after getting drunk. I didn't took her seriously but I am occasional drinker and drinks very rarely and 1 day she drunk with me and oh god that day I found out she can drink like a fish. After some days I moved to another city as I used to work in different city from my hometown. I can see a drastic swings in her mood daily. One day she used to fight with me and giving me suicide threats, another day she is sad mood and cry, another day she is jolly good mood and talks very nicely. So this leads me to a conclusion either she is suffering from some sort mental illness or may be she is a regular drunker and when she didn't get anything to drink she gets frustrated and irritated.
2. Once I visited home and she had a fight with my parents for very small reason and fight with me. Then she gave me a suicide threat and looked herself in bathroom after searching some thing in the TV drawer, thank god she didn't find any blade or anything but at that time i didn't know that. So I immediately rush to my parents and tried to convince her to open the door, after that when I tried to broke the door she opened it and found out she didn't do anything crazy but I am so afraid from her. I don't even know what to say to her or not. What makes her crazy and whats not.
3. Before moving to her home, She also told me very normally that when I go home I don't want to come back I wanted to be with my parents, I don't like living here. You can visit me if you want else you can give me divorce I don't have any problem with that.
4. After some time she moved to her home and my mother found out a bottle hidden in her bedside and glasses. So she said these things to her parent and by hearing this she became very angry at me and threaten me that she will not do anything now but she will do after reaching over my home. and threaten me on fake cases like her finger got little burnt during cooking but she threaten me by telling that she will file a case and will tell police that her hand was burnt by my mom, and she tortured her in my home.
I am very afraid of her thinking like this. I compromised everything but this is way out of me to deal with it. I can't bring her back on my home after these threats but now she used to talk to me normally and said sorry for all the things but how can I believe her that she will not do something crazy after coming back.
All the things she said I have recorded all that on my phone call conversation, as I wanted to be on a safe side. All her threats and admitted about her drinking habits are recorded with me.
I am thinking to file a divorce as I can't think of living with her whole life after knowing how negative her thinking is, but I think we cannot file a divorce in this early phase of marriage.
Asked 2 years ago in Family Law
1. One thing I understood that before completing 1 year, I can file a petition for judicial separation on grounds of mental cruelty.
2. I just wanted to know in this case if I take a divorce do I have to pay alimony to her. She has master degree as per my knowledge and she is not working currently. As she always ask me to pay the amount which her family spend in marriage and leave me. So I am worried about that because me and my family are in no state to provide something as we are currently struggling from financial problem.
Asked 2 years ago
I want to add few more things to my last queries.
1) She staying with her parents for 2 months, mean time our families discussing,
my family told them the decision that they will not keep her because of her threatening nature, anger issues.
2) Suddenly her family member came to my parents’ home with 7-8 people for discussion, and when they saw my parent went inside they opened the gate allowed the girl and her parents to enter inside the home.
For last 15 days, she is living inside my parents’ house forcibly.
3) After that we had a family meeting and told them everything. However, their family is not ready to listen anything and wanted us to give her a chance but we know the things we have seen and we are afraid from her. Therefore, we do not want her to give any chance.
4) Her family not taking her and she is continue living forcibly in my parents’ home. And again she threaten us that if we didn't keep her then she will destroy every one life and peace and told us that she will not give divorce at any cost.
5) Before coming to my parents’ home in Delhi, She inquired about my office address and living place in Ahmedabad through Facebook fake account, from the fake account she used to send marriage pics to my friends and with one of my friend told him that they are not keeping her wife and destroying a life of a girl and requested him to defame me in entire office so my office will fire me.
6) My father consulted with one lawyer and he suggested him that before one year we cannot do anything, even if we file judicial separation then she can file a fake case against us for dowry and physical abuse and in that situation court will reject my plea for judicial separation on basis of mental cruelty, and suggested us to keep her in your home and wait for 1-year completion.
Meanwhile we have gave an application in police station that this is happening with us and she can file a fake case against us.
What precautions shld i tk if she harm herself & make fake case.
Asked 2 years ago