• Dowry, physical, mental, and sexual abuse

Hi,

 I am a software engineer from Bangalore. I and my husband got married in july 2014. It is a love marriage. my husband was very well but few days after marriage my mother in law and sister in law asked me to buy a plot in Bangalore, but I said them that I don't have money to buy plot. On the very next day, my mother in law called me and said give divorce to my son, I will make him understand. Initially my husband supported me but later he changed. My mother in law and sister in law challenged to me saying we will not allow you to live with ur husband. They started harassing me that "we have seen a bride who gives 1 kg gold, you are beggar. give divorce " These problems started in may 2015 and it is still continuing. she threatens my husband that she would commit suicide if he wont divorce me. Also I was not allowed to live with my husband from February 2016. During my stay with my husband also, he was physically harassing me more. Later my mother in law and husband forced me to abort my baby but I did not agree, and now I have a 1year son but still problem is not solved. My husband has love on me but because of my mother in law he is avoiding me and baby. In fact my mother in law did not come to see my baby at least once. Also my husband insults me that " U r useless beggar and u cannot earn in lakhs" . Now my husband harasses me physically, mentally and sexually but this is not my husbands original character. My mother in law is the base reason for everything. My husband also misuses my facebook account. I don't want to give divorce to my husband. Is there any other solution where i can live a normal life with my husband. My family is advicing me to file domestic violence but as i was using a basic set in earlier days and also the one phone in which i had few call recordings is stolen by my husband so i do not have any proofs except few recent chat conversation.
Asked 7 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu

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11 Answers

you will file complaint in women police cell or police sta. at your area against your INLAWS under sECT. 498-a of i.p.c..

Parvez Akhtar
Advocate, Mandsaur
15 Answers

Taking a wise decision in right time is important. You want to save the married life and live with your husband. So better avoid all types of litigations. Divorce should only be used as a last resort when you feel that marriage has broken down irretrievably and in spite of your best efforts there is no chance of survival of marriage.

First try for amicable settlements and un conditional love to husband and his inlaws. Conversation is the best policy to solve the problems, but do it in positive way and not create negatives in mind. Don’t be provoked and not to express a hot temper manner of approach if you feel bad or hurt.

You are a software engineer and can earn in future. So money is not making a big problem in your life. A woman after marriage spends the whole of her life for the family; she brings up children, takes care of husband and family members. In fact they are doing trillion jobs at home. Her work at home has not been recognized and remunerated. In order to provide financial security to wives who work hard for the family

If the threats are beyond the limits file petition against in laws under DV Act. The primary aim of the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 is to provide protection to the wife or female live-in partner from domestic violence at the hands of the husband or male live-in partner or his relatives. The Domestic Violence Act includes actual abuse or the threat of abuse whether physical, sexual, verbal, emotional or economic and according to the law harassment by way of unlawful dowry demands to the woman or her relatives.

Ajay N S
Advocate, Ernakulam
4087 Answers
112 Consultations

1) file police complaint of dowry harassment against husband , mother in law , sister in law under section 498A of IPC

2) also file DV case against husband and MIL seek protection order, maintenance , compensation for mental torture undergone by you

3) rely upon chat conversations in your possession

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
96806 Answers
7811 Consultations

1.DO not filethe case just now as it may ruin your marrriage for good.

2.Rather pass some private moments with your husband away from your in laws. It can be a long vacation or staying separately with him briefly.If your husband is not that type of person he may change for you for sure.

3.Give this marriage one final try and of that does not work then consider filing the such cases.

Devajyoti Barman
Advocate, Kolkata
23198 Answers
511 Consultations

U can file a petition for maintenance under section 12 of domestic violence act and ask the cOurt to direct your husband to stay with you in a separate residence.... also file petition under section 125 crpc to claim maintenance

Swarnarka Chowdhury
Advocate, Mysore
1879 Answers
5 Consultations

Hi, Both of you need conciliation so better you can approach Commissioner of Police office infantry Road, Bangalore, where you can approach "Vanitha Sahayanani" they will help you to resolve the matter.

Pradeep Bharathipura
Advocate, Bangalore
5611 Answers
338 Consultations

It looks, your husband behind all these drama. Perhaps, he don't want to involve directly ( as he may be knowing the adverse consequences in the current scenario for dowry/physical harassment ). If your husband wanted to resolve the issue then the issue would not have been continuing till date. Seeing your situation, you should have filed police complaint in the year of 2014 itself.

To file dowry/physical/sexual harassment complaint, you do not need to submit the supporting proof at initial stage itself.

I suggest you to get help from a lawyer and file police complaint against everybody.

Niranjan
Advocate, Bangalore
844 Answers
9 Consultations

File a Complaint before the Protection Officer under the DV act and report all the atrocities that your husband and in-laws have meted out to you.

Also, approach the Crime against women cell and move a written Complaint against your husband and in-laws, reporting all the incidents of Dowry related violence that have been meted out to you.

Vibhanshu Srivastava
Advocate, Lucknow
9659 Answers
307 Consultations

If the relationship has gone ti such a level from where there is no turning back then legally you can not in any way force your husband to live with you.

Best is to go for a mutual consent divorce and claim alimony and if the husband refuses to do so then file a DV case and also a contested divorce case.

Regard

Anilesh Tewari
Advocate, New Delhi
18090 Answers
377 Consultations

Your family is rightly advising you to file the case of domestic violence against your husband, mother-in-law and sister-in-law. On the other hand you can file criminal complaint under section 498-A in the court of law. By this way, they will definitely get the lesson.

Laksheyender Kumar
Advocate, Delhi
734 Answers
2 Consultations

The DV case can be filed even without any concrete evidence stating the events have taken place within four walls hence no evidence can be originated.

You can rope in some reliable relatives as witness to support your claim.

You dont have to file a divorce case but you can always live separately without going for divorce to avoid their tortures.

If you say that your husband is also torturing you mentally, physically and sexually then what makes you to stick around with him when the things are intolerable.

The phone chat conversation cannot be admissible as evidence before court.

If your husband is hacking your facebook account you may cancel it and start a fresh one without his knowledge.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
87007 Answers
2335 Consultations

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