If you both are not in same city,joint parenting or divided custoy is not an ideal one.
The interest of the child has to be important and paramount in fighting for the hstody as any court will consider this.
How old is Your child ,if it is less than five courts generally allow custody to mother unless prove that she has mental illness or not competent to look after the child.
It is advisable you ask for visitation rights, get access for holidays ask for 15 days when child has vecation as it will not affect normal school schedule .
You can ask for every week or twice in a month visitation access.
Consult with a lawyer ,depending on the nature of the case,parents,child , the facts differes so the court orders.
it is better to take proper advise meeting alawyer in person before trying for appeal on the interim order .