• Mental harassment by mother-in-law

I,got married on 20th May 2010,I work for an IT company, I got job after 1 year of marriage My In laws have cheated us about my husband studies and job, they said that he is an MBA holder and he is working for a Power plant and his monthly salary is 20000, which was completely false,he worked for construction companies and he never earned 20000 salary, his earning was not sufficient to fufill our daily needs also, so he always expected money from me, and i always gave money to him.though i got to about this cheating after 1-2 months of marriage but kept quiet to save my marriage,My husband is very much influenced by my motherin law, my motherin law always humilated my parents and she harrasess me mentally, though she is not staying with us,she interfere in all our personal matters, and my husband obey her words even if she is wrong, from couple of months this torture is more, my husband started threatening that he will break my office laptop and mobile.i am staying away from my husband from last 3 months, now he asking me to leave the job and come to hometown, i canot leave the job as he is not having proper job and i cannot get a proper job in my hometown.My husband is good if he thinks by himself, but as he is very much influenced by his mother this all problem, please suggest i do not want to go for divorce.
Asked 6 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu

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The marriage is certainly not working and you must not take the risk of losing job to save this tumultuous marriage.

In stead of leaving the job both of you can try staying in a neutral place so both of you can stay away from the influence if any from your respective family.

Do not file suit for divorce as yet.

Give this marriage time and ptience.It would surely work.Do not haste in taking any decision.

Devajyoti Barman
Advocate, Kolkata
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1. You are right in deciding going against divorce since divorce is the 2nd most stressful event in one's life.

2. Having said the above, it is also a fact that you are facing the problem from your husband and inlaws whichsome times becomes unbearable and needs to be addressed properly.

3. Negotiate with your husband amicably and come to a compromise settlement.

4. Ask him how will he pull on without your salary?

5. Under no circumstances, you should leave your job, be whatever may.

6. Your only solution is by convincing your husband about the practical side of the problem/issue.

Krishna Kishore Ganguly
Advocate, Kolkata
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726 Consultations

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1) refuse to bow down to husband un reasonable demands

2) if husband wants to save the marriage he will contact you

3) visit a marriage counsellor with husband to save your marriage

4) if husband filed for divorce contest divorce proceedings

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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1. Since you do not wish to go for divorce you may file a DV case under section 12 of DV Act to seek the right to reside in your matrimonial home which is the shared household and also injunction against your in-laws to restrain them interfering in your matrimonial life and also protection order to stop further acts of domestic violence.

2. Under DV Act if the protection order issued by the magistrate is breached then the violator may be imprisoned on the solitary testimony of the aggrieved person.

Ashish Davessar
Advocate, Jaipur
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972 Consultations

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** I think already there were 'multiple mediation' would have happened among the parties in the past 7 year.

1. Now you started thinking that they are harassing you mentally. But In future, they could create serious issues to you even physically.

2. It the ground to file Dowry harassment and domestic violence case.

3. Option - If you would like to get divorce then apply for the same ( If you do not see any future with the guy ).Your husband is not kid to say that he can not understand the criminal intention of your mother in law.

4.Here you did not mention about your kids.

Niranjan
Advocate, Bangalore
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Hello,

I understand the situation you are going through and legally it is not possible to refrain your mother in lw from doing such evil acts.

You may talk to your husband mutually with regards to this matrimonial tie.

Also if you go legally then you can file a police complaint with regards to the harassment against the husband and your in laws and then you may file divorce and other cases like maintainance etc.

I would advise you to have a talk amongst the elderly members of the family to resolve the dispute.

Regards

Anilesh Tewari
Advocate, New Delhi
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377 Consultations

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Instead of leaving your job just ask the husband to leave his job and come to your place and search for a new job.

Divorce is not the solution to every domestic problem and certain adjustments should be done to adjust in marriage.

You just warn your husband to behave like a man and try to keep your life going.

Good luck!!

Vimlesh Prasad Mishra
Advocate, Lucknow
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Your husband cannot compel you to leave the job and return at the home town. Such kind of harassment from your mother in law comes under Domestic Violence Act. it is settled law that working of wife at different place does not constitute any cause of action for seeking relief from the court. You should carry on your job without fear that your husband can initiate legal proceeding and compel you to return back.

Shivendra Pratap Singh
Advocate, Lucknow
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78 Consultations

4.9 on 5.0

You need not return back to your husband until all the issues at hand are resolved.

You can book your mother in in-law for the domestic violence and torture she is meeting out to you.

You and your husband should go for a session/counselling before a marriage counsellor. I believe there the difference you have with your husband can be very much resolved after a discussion and with the concerted efforts of both.

Vibhanshu Srivastava
Advocate, Lucknow
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303 Consultations

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Just file the complaint of domestic violence against your husband and in-laws.

Laksheyender Kumar
Advocate, Delhi
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2 Consultations

4.8 on 5.0

In case as a part of dominating you, your husband is also abusing you, both physically and mentally, you may name him as well besides his mother in your complaint for domestic violence.

Vibhanshu Srivastava
Advocate, Lucknow
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303 Consultations

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1) file DV case against husband and seek protection order , compensation for mental torture undergone by you and maintenance

2) contact a local lawyer

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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7485 Consultations

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Which kind legal solution you are seeking with out making any police complaints for his cheating and forgery act? . Your husband criminal acts should be recorded legally. So, think of filing police complaint against him.

Or

Direct police to advice/warn your husband to maintain marriage contract obligations.

Niranjan
Advocate, Bangalore
844 Answers
9 Consultations

4.9 on 5.0

For that you need to file complaint in police station against your husband and your in-laws

Laksheyender Kumar
Advocate, Delhi
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2 Consultations

4.8 on 5.0

The only legal way short of divorce to 'sort it out' is what I mentioned in my previous reply.

Ashish Davessar
Advocate, Jaipur
30763 Answers
972 Consultations

5.0 on 5.0

Hi, legally talking you can initiate criminal/ civil proceedings against your husband .. But as you said your husband is genuine and sometimes gets influenced , therefore personally I can advise is to give some more efforts to your marriage , If nothing improve then you can initiate proceedings of domestic violence against your In laws

Hemant Chaudhary
Advocate, Gurgaon
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67 Consultations

4.9 on 5.0

1. Law can punish him for his act of cheating you but can not make him feeling guilty about it.

2. in fact it is not the Job of the Court or object of the legal provisions to make him feeling guilty of his act and court will not care whether he feels guilty or not.

3. Court releases or punishes the accused if found not guilty or guilty after conducting the trial.

4. It will be prudent on your part to try to convince him about your problem caused due to his behaviour amicably and in case it becomes unbearable to you, approach the Court of law for relief and remedy.

Krishna Kishore Ganguly
Advocate, Kolkata
27191 Answers
726 Consultations

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Since this is not an alarming issue, you should not think of divorce at this stage.

For the time being you may continue to live away from him separately.

Do not leave your job for any reason, you will not get re-employed at a later stage when you will be in need of a job

The silence between you two and the separation may make him think about this and he may change and make amends to live with you a happy married life i future as the time passes.

If nothing happens at a later stage say after 6 months or even one year, you may decide to initiate legal steps on this.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
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my concern is as mentioned above, i have been cheated about his education and Job, but still i tried to adjust,but he is not having guilt about that, and he is trying to dominate me,is there any legal way to sort this out.

The only legal way is to go for divorce or at least seek legal separation so that he may realise your absence and your worth to think about rejoining you and to take care and be affectionate with you after that.

If nothing happens then you may proceed with the proposed divorce case.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
84711 Answers
2172 Consultations

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Contact a local lawyer and file a case under the DV act against your husband and seek protection order and maintenance.

Regards

Anilesh Tewari
Advocate, New Delhi
18077 Answers
377 Consultations

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