Need to get rid of husband
Hello,
I am a hindu lady, resident of Delhi.
I was married in 1992 and since then my life is worst than hell. My husband was a good cricketer and a good photographer at the time of marriage. My father in law had a photography business which he used to take care of. Gradually, he developed friendship with drunkards and started drinking alcohol. Slowly he had no earnings. All this happened within a span of 2 to 3 years after marriage. I was a housewife till the time he was earning (whatever little, but ultimately, my father in law used to take care of all the financial needs of the house). Once his earnings vanished, I took to earning because I had to feed my children. Also, one important thing to mention here is I was being scolded and beaten from day 1 of marriage. The moment I landed in my in law's house after "Vidayee", I was scolded by him and beaten black and blue just because some relatives from in laws side had drunk a lot and had a scuffle in the marriage function. The blame was that my family had mixed something in their drinks and hence the in-laws got into the scuffle. That moment itself, I decided to leave the house but my father in law came in my support and I changed my mind for the betterment of the family. Till 3 years back from now (when my father in law died), my father in law supported me at every point of life like a father. This is the sole reason, why, inspite of all the atrocities on me, I didn't leave my husband. He gave me protection from my husband's atrocities. After my father in law's death, I was all alone. I was the only earning member of the house by now and I had to feed 5 people. My husband, my two sons and my mother in law. The entire day, I used to work and in the evening when I came home, my husband used to call me names, used to associate my name with every tom dick and harry, started quarelling with me at small matters and beat me. At times, he even woke me up from sleep at around 2AM or 3AM and started beating me on any topic. A couple of times, he kicked me from 1st floor stairs, I fell and got injured. He beat me with hockey stick. He even burnt me with cigarette buds. The atrocities didn't end here. At times, he even dragged me out of the house and beat me in front of the neighbors. As per my husband, the reason for all these atrocities is that he is suspicous of me having an extra marital affair with people in my office, with a rickshaw puller who often drops me from metro to home, with a vegetable vendor from whom i usually buy grocery, with my husband's friends, with my husband's cousin brother who lives in punjab, with my elder sister's husband who supports me like his daughter/sister. This list is endless. Even if you talk to me a couple of times, you might also fall into this list.
Around, six to seven months back, I had gone to sister's place with my brother and mother. After dinner, we turned late and my brother dropped me home at around 1AM. The moment I reached the entrance, I noticed my husband waiting at the entrance. He had a knife in his hand, he attacked me. I somehow escaped and he ran after me in the lanes. Some neighbors woke up and came out of homes hearing my scream. They saved me. I called up my brother and he also had a fight with my husband. I called up police, they took him to police station, took some money from my mother in law and left him free early morning. After this incident, I finally decided to leave home. It took me around 23 years to take this harsh decision. Now I am living in Ghaziabad, away from my home but my mother in law and my husband often call me and threaten me of dire consequences. They come to my work place and put a fight there just to insult me.
Every time an incident happened to me, I went to the Police Station, but nobody listed to me. The maximum, they took action is, called my husband to police station, make him sit for 2 to 3 hours and finally leave him free after getting money from my mother in law. They never registered my complaint nor took any action. I have contacted the police station almost 10 to 12 times during the last 3 years. Neither they register my complaint nor they give acknoledgement to my application. Before I left my house, my mother in law never supported my husband but after that, she supports her drunkard husband fully and they are doing this. I have shifted my place of residence 3 times in the last 6-7 months and my place of work 2 times.
My husband's sole motto today is that wherever you go to live or work, I and my mother will come to your place and insult you, scold you and will not let you live peacefully.
I just want to live peacefully with my kids only. I desperately need your help. My life has become worst than hell. I fear for my life since he always threatens he will throw acid on my face. He has even come to my office where I work and insulted me.
I am just a 12th pass lady working for a very small salary with which it's very difficult to meet my day to day expenses. At times, I feel like committing suicide. My sons are 21 and 23 years old. My elder son could not study after 12th and younder one could not study after 10th. They also do not earn. The elder son doesn't support me just because I left home (on rest of the matters, he supports me), however, the younger son completely supports me. Both of them live with their father and grandmother as of now since I am unable to feed them alone.
There's one property still in my late father in law's name and one commercial property which was bought by my mother in law.
Please suggest what best could be done. I can not live with my husband, rest I can do anything.
Thanks
Asked 8 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
In most of the suggestions above, I have been commonly advised of the following things:
1. File for Domestic Violence case: I am fine with this. Just that I need to save some money for this first before fiing a DV case.
2. File for compensation and / maintenance: The irony is my husband doesn't earn even a single penny. Once I have left the house, the only source of income for my in-law's house is rental income from father in law's property which is mere Rs.5000 per month and this money goes for electricity and water bill payments. From where would I get a compensation or a maintenance??
The third point to mention here is mine is a private job. I worked as a receptionist where I used to get 12000 per month but since the last 8-10 months I have received hardly Rs. 30000 in total since the owner's business is not doing well so sometimes he paid 5000 and sometimes 7000 only, just to meet my basic expenses. I changed my job but here also am not able to get full salary on time. Would this kind of my job taken into consideration by the court as I am an earning wife??
Some local lawyer suggested that I would not get any maintenance because I have a job and I am earning whereas my husband is jobless. Rather, he might file a case for compensation from a working wife.
Also, If I file for a divorce on various grounds like DV and cruelty, would I get my part from my father in law's property or my mother in law's property or it would go straight to my husband who, I fear, would sell it off to manage his drinking habits. On occasional basis, he is so much addicted that he has sold some household utensils, bread and butter packets (stored for kids) to buy drinks.
Please suggest.
Asked 8 years ago