Hello,

I understand the situation you are in and since the husband is no there with you therefore you re not able to take support from anyone.

In this case maam if you want you may move out of the home and ask your husband to make his parents understand things and then only you will come back. Try and see if these things can be resolved by this failing which you may take divorce after 1 year of marriage.

Regards

See firstly you can talk to your husband and in laws through family if the things settle then its good , or you can start leaving separately from them if that is not possible and you are being tortured file a complaint under Domestic violence act against the FIL and MIL but kindly take care it will strain your marriage,

Discuss with your husband that you need to work as husband is working abroad and you can’t stay at home all day

2)your in laws cannot dictate what clothes you wear to office as long as you are decently dressed

3) no need to wear saree daily

4) ask your husband to talk to your in laws regarding dresses you can wear and restrictions imposed on phone calls etc

This is my response to you:

1. You need to resolve the disputes with your family;

2. These kind of statements are not acceptable in a modern society;

3. Complain the same to your husband and resolve it amicably in the family;

4. Otherwise method of last resort, approach the marriage counselor and settle the issues.

You are the sufferer not she. You have to only keep working relationship with her. She must be rigid and old habbits die hard. Keep yourself busy. Talk to your husband on this issue. You can slowly move to another house without hurting her.

Share this with your husband so that he helps you find a solution.

The other way to resolve this would be to talk-this out with your in-laws in the presence of your parents.

Under law, your in-laws can't force these petty regulations upon you. In case they push, you may file a domestic violence complaint against the,m.

1. The sole act of insisting the newly wedded wife to follow the traditional values/customs by the inlaws may not be considered as mental torture by the Court. However, it can be added later on if there are abuses hurled on you later on by them.

2. It will be prudent on your part to accommodate for the time being till you join your husband abroad since any untoward reply/resistance from your side at this initial stage might spoil your relationship with your husband.

3. However, you should audio/video record all such conversations of your in laws without their knowledge which will serve as very good evidence to prove their cruelty (being added with other cruel acts) at a later stage, should such circumstances arise.

1. This is a archaically mindset which is no more to be followed if one wish to live her life on her own.

2. You are independent person and you are free to do everything which your culture and profession allows.

3. As long as you are leading a wayward or reckless life then you must carry on with your formal outfit and continue normal communications with your acquaintances.

In this way no marriage can survive.

4. Without delay protest with your husband and inform him in categorical terms that your in laws must not dictate you what to wear and whom to speak with.

If now you do not protest then you will be shackles during your remaining life.

1) If you're working woman than you can tell them in office you have to work so its difficult to work in saree instead you will be wearing Salwar kameez daily and on occasionally Saree.

2) Because in saree most of the body part are open and its not look good also and while working outside home it's difficult.

3) If they want you to wear Saree than you will be not able to go for work and you will have to remain typical house wife than.

Marriage is not coming only with the joy it comes with certain compromise and responsibilities as you are now at matrimonial house you have to follow certain principles and cultural principles of the family and need to compromise upto certain extent having a very insistent nature will create problem in the family now you have to sacrifice your unguarded going out and talking to any person as you wish in case you can not compromise according to the terms of the family then it will be very difficult for you to remain in this marriage your in laws may not be wrong every time but you can handle the situation by your care and affection in the family

You can either leave home and stay somewhere else or you can file complaint in police station for mental harassment.

1. Nobody can force you to stay at home, This amounts to illegal restraint which is a punishable offence under IPC.

2. What they are doing also amounts to domestic violence within the sweep of DV ACt, 2005. You can file a complaint case under Section 12 of DV Act, 2005 to seek a protection order to restrain your in-laws from subjecting you to any act of domestic violence.

No doubt you have liberty to do whatever you want and to live a lifestyle of your choice.

However the traditions and culture is different in India.

It is not compulsion on you to follow the culture and traditions that are imposed by your in laws.

They may be orthodox and would like to maintain their family respect and reputation hence such restrictions may have been imposed against you.

These are petty issues and no where they are going to curtail your liberty.

This mentality can be overcome on the passage of time.

Your marriage is hardly one month old hence at this stage it is very important that you maintain little flexibility.

Your wrath or anger over their instructions may lead to a disaster in your married life, especially if your husband is out of the country, he may not know the real facts, therefore you should handle patience, maintain a low profile at home, adjust yourself and live a life of harmony. It will help you to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts.

Your initial agitation may lay a foundation to an unstable married life for ever, hence think about all the pros and cons properly and take wise decision

Yes, we understand the trauma you are going through but do have transferable job or not , if yes then go for that if not , what the distance of your office from your in-laws house if it is more then 10 KM then you can suggest them that you are going for a PG, there are more ways but I advise you to take correct measure because your married life should not be disturbed.