Dear Sir, Sub: Serious Harassment being faced by my wife Mrs. Neha Saini I, Ashish Kumar Saini, S/O shri Chaman Lal Saini New Delhi 110014 and would like to bring to your kind attention that I am being harassed by my wife i.e. Mrs. Neha Saini. We have been married since couple of years and we are Blessed with two kids, one daughter and later one son. We have tied our Marriage Knot with full Hindu Ritual with the consent of both the families and with atmost understanding and trust. In the due course I have realized that the behavior of my wife is not normal and she is reacting in a very awkward manner which is against the acceptance of any husband or the society. I had made several attempts to convince and we also did meetings in the presence of both the families to bring the matter to a positive closure. It is un-fortunate that despite my sincere attempts the behavior of my wife is not changing and she is finding some or the other reason to make a fight/quarrel with me. I am duly attached to my wife and my kids and I want that we should live a normal life like other couples and families however this is not possible with effort only from one side. She is behaving in an abnormal manner which is not how a normal individual reacts and I am helpless in understanding her behavior. This had lead to huge quarrels and arguments wherein I tried to control the situation by calming her. When I am trying to convince her or make her understand and make her calm, she rather reacts in a very Inappropriate manner and try to quarrel and try to leave the home and sometimes she becomes so violent that she even tried to commit suicide. Therefore, I am very much afraid and worried that she might take any wrong step any day which will make me and my entire families suffer. I am already a Heart patient and such arrogant and violent behavior of my wife is putting me into lot of health problems due to which I am not able to live a healthy life. Seeing all this I am very much concerned about me and my children’s future. She is regularly giving me and my family threatening and make all of us suffer for no good reason. I have been becoming economically weaker day by day because it effects my work also. Every alternate day she tries to bring a situation because of which fight should happen and she can create all this drama. Something which is very strange is that she beats my daughter who is an innocent kid and who has nothing to do with all this, which is just taking out her anger on the small child. So I am requesting with folded hands to the concerned officials to please guide me what should I do ? as everyday me and my family life is becoming hell and I am sincerely expecting relief and relaxation from you Thanking you, Yours sincerely, Ashish Kumar Saini
If you want her behaviour to improve take a help of psychologist. A doctor can understand patients mind and can make her see what is wrong in her behaviour. Maybe with a session with psychologist can improve her behaviour and you can stay happily with her and kids.
But if you do not want to stay with her then only option is judicial separation or divorce.
But I will suggest you to visit a psychologist and stay happy as your kids need both the parents.
Dear Mr. Saini,
Understanding the pains you are going through at this stage will not suggest you to file a divorce or pursue any litigation against your wife. Rather Get deeper in to her wants and wishes..... MOST importantly IF you stay in a joint family and if it is possible for you try to stay alone with your wife and kids without any interference in your nuclear family from your parents or any relatives.
You may be suggested to file divorce and pursue litigation - but as you have two children, will not suggest separation, speak to your wife on length and ask her of she is willing to separate from you - SOME reason has to be their for her behavior - please try understanding that else. LITIGATION is always open as an option for your.
Avoid courts at this stage....
Best of luck
The actions of your wife of threatening you to commit suicide amounts to Grave cruelty on the husband and is a valid ground for divorce under the Hindu Marriage Act.
Such actions cannot be condoned as if she is successful in her attempt to commit suicide, you will be charged for abetment of suicide under section 306 of the Indian Penal Code.
You can also get the custody of your children, since your wife as suicidal tendencies and it would be in the best interest of the child that the custody may be awarded to you as the safety of your child would be endangered with the unstable person like your wife.
Moreover the Welfare of the child is of Paramount importance while granting custody of child.
First of all try to settle the matter at home with the help of near and dear, if remained unsolved try to convince her for a mutual consent divorce as it will save/reduce your money, time and mental pain.
Another thing to keep in mind is that when you file case of divorce, other than mutual consent, she will file domestic violence, maintenance and cruelty complaints/cases.
So better to try for mutual consent divorce.
1. It appears that your wife is very immature to foresee the consequence of her such behaviour.
2. Now you shall have to decide as to what do you want to do with your such type of matrimonial relationship with your wife.
3. If you decide to terminate it, collect all the evidence of her such behaviour, suicide threat etc. by audio/video recording her conversations.
4. thereafter you can file a divorce suit against her on the ground of cruelty by submitting the said evidence.
5. You can also negotiate with her to jointly file mutual consent divorce petition on agreed terms which will be decided within 6 & 1/2 months from the date of its filing.
File for divorce on grounds of mental cruelty
2) wife abusing husband amounts to mental cruelty and is ground for divorce
3) wife threatening to commit suicide amounts to mental cruelty and is ground for divorce
4) seek sole custody of your children
Hello,
I would only suggest you to approach your in-law and have a family meeting and must attend a family counsellor. It seems that she need counselling .
If you find that she really have some mental problem then you can file a case for divorce and seek the custody of the children.
Regards
Hi,
You may seek the services of marriage counselling. It may work. Last option is to get rid of all these, go for divorce.
1. This is more like a personal problem than a legal one and hence it requires personal intervention if bot of you.
2. Engage both the families and its elders to find out an amicable solution.
3. Take her to holiday trip to pass some intimate moment away from mundane affairs and influence of respective families. Statistics says such holiday often helps resolving dispute mutually.
4. If all these efforts comes to a naught then propose her for a mutual divorce. otherwise a long battle of contested divorce suit and other retaliatory criminal cases will ensure which can though be easily handled if you take proper line of action.
You need to take a final case as to whether or not you wish to spend your rest of life with you wife. In case your decision is no, you must obtain a divorce to your wife.
If you wish to normalise your relationship with you r wife, both of you must take some joint counseling sessions with an experienced marriage therapist.
Hello Sir,
I understand the situation you are in.
We are advocates who may advise you as to what action you can take, we can not grant you any relief.
For the situation that has been created by your wife, you can file a case of divorce against the wife on the ground of cruelty.
collect evidences in order to substantiate the facts as told by you.
Also, there will be repercussions as and when you file the case, for which you have to be strong.
Regards
Sir first lodge a NC in police station against your wife for intimidation for false cases, then you can request your wife for mutual divorce if she donot agree you can file a divorce on the ground of the cruelty. Further you can get her mental health check up there can be a issue you can take her to psychiatrist and can ask for an opinion further her behaviour amounts to cruelty and on same the divorce can be asked.
hello
sir this is very strange behaviour that your wife is exhibiting. kindly take her to a psychologist and if she refuses, consult with her parents. also if this also does not happen, file an application in the family court, and state on oath the behaviour of your wife. she cannot go on doing this to you and the kids.
regards
1. Since the conduct of your wife is tantamount to mental cruelty you are free to file a petition for dissolution of marriage on this ground under Section 13 of Hindu Marriage Act.
2. If she beats the child then install CCTVs inside the house to collect evidence and then you may file a suit for permanent injunction against her to stop her from entering the house.
1. Due to her abnormal behavior your wife has to be consulted by a marriage counselor or by a psychologist immediately.
2. If you cannot control her and not able to tolerate her attitude and behavior especially her cruel acts against the children, then you may give a warning to her parents that if something happens to the children she will be held responsible for all the events.
3. If necessary you may even lodge NC with the local police to protect you from any legal onslaughts by her in retaliation to your steps taken to reconcile the differences.
4. If nothing works out then you may even plan for filing a divorce cse on the grounds of cruelty and also file a petition seeking children custody
