My wifes behaviour is very rude. Even before marriage after getting engaged the rudeness prevailed. The kids aged 5 and 4 yrs face her arrogant behaviour which is painful to see. We don't see each other eye to eye. The environment at home is tensed. Knowing fully well that any such tensed environment can be harmful to my health and can cause relapse of the ailment resulting in serious consequences. Last ten years that we have been married,every 6 to 8 months there is a scene created because of her rude behaviour. The noices go high and neighbours listen too. The quantum of household chores that she does is known to her parents too. In comparison to what my mother does her inputs are less. She expects my mother to not even rest and keep working and adjusting herself for sale of my kids. She thinks it is their duty to take care if my kids. While I was hospitalized for 2 weeks she managed to visit me for just 40 minutes in total. She was attending to her college duties and my mother was disturbed mentally cos of my illness and taking care of my kids in her Absence. Without understanding she picks up quarrels with me and if told about something being not right,i am only answered in a rude tone. She has been told that her talking sense would have wrong influence on kids but in vain. She was such a personality even before her marriage which her parents say. And this actually makes me wonder if as parents are they justified in getting her married and spoiling my peaceful life. She has problem with my earning capacity too though my salary slip was also shown to them before marriage. Her father took this decision of marrying her after investigating everything thou at that point of time also her expectation was more than what I was earning. She does not like our relatives coming to our place. We have to ensure that our choice of words is right while talking to her lest she gets angry for no reason. Kindly suggest what are the options before me. Should I file an online complaint to safeguard myself.
You are facing domestic violence at the hands of your wife and the resultant atmosphere is not conducive for the upbringing of your children.
File a petition under the Domestic Violence Act and report the incidents of violence that you have cited in your question.
Contact a local lawyer dealing in matrimonial matters.
See you have an option of judicial separation, divorce on ground of her cruelty towards you.
You can also initiate a proceeding under domestic violence act as Court held husband can also initiate a proceeding of domestic violence against wife.
Section 3 of the Domestic Violence Act, 2005 states that what constitutes domestic violence according to which domestic violence shall include: -
(a) Threats to health, safety, life etc, whether mental or physical, including physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal and emotional abuse and economic abuse; or
(b) Harassmentthrough any forms such as harms, injuries to the aggrieved person by coercing her or any other person related to any unlawful demand for dowry or other property or valuable security; or
(c) Otherwise injuring or causing harm, through physical or mental means to the aggrieved person.
Kindly refer the judgement for specific query kindly post your question or can contact personally : http://www.livelaw.in/husband-can-initiate-proceedings-dv-act-wife-relatives-karnataka-hc-read-order/
First of all be clear what you want.
Do you want to just safeguard yourself?
Do you want to continue the marriage?
Do you want to dissolve the marriage?
Accordingly you can take appropriate steps by talking to a lawyer.
Moreover you can start collecting evidences of her behavior and get medical records if any to strengthen your case.
Then depending on what decision is made you can go for appropriate legal proceedings.
In family courts there are counsellors who can help you address the matter.
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There's no point of living with a woman with whom you are not comfortable with nor you see any peaceful life coming in future.
1. You should move an application of divorce u/s 13 of Hindu Marriage Act on the ground of cruelty.
2. Move another application to seek custody of both the child of yours.
3. Try proving the point that she a lady of her own standard and can live her life peacefully if she is being left alone. What I mean to say over here is prove that she earns for herself and manages her life on her own and she is not qualified enough to receive any sort of maintenance from you.
Before going to court -
1. Try collecting all the evidences which can prove that she is cruel in nature. Such as start saving all the messages (including whatsapp other messages) exchanged in between you, start recording all the phone calls and normal meeting happened in between you and your parents and even your children either at home or outside wherein she tends to become cruel.
2. Start collecting all the bills which you are paying so that you can state it before the court that you have a standard amount of expenses and other people (your children and parents) are dependent upon your income.
3. Start collecting all such evidences which can prove that she is on her own which means she has a regular job.
4. If possible also hire a detective and collect other sort of evidences against her. Who knows she may have relationship with someone else or she may use to say ill about you all at her job place as well.
Visit a family counsellor with your wife to resolve love your differences
2) you can also consult a psychiatrist with your wife
3)she may be suffering from mental illness and needs medical treatment
4) if situation does not improve file for divorce on grounds of mental cruelty
5) wife abusing husband and in laws amounts to mental cruelty
Hi Dear client,
As per your wife’s rude behaviour before or after marriage, as I think once you both visit to some good place and confront each other’s problem then whatever both views will come to know even then if there is no changes in her attitude then I would suggest you to go for family counselling centre, their both people will have counselling before the officer and their atleast you can share your problems to them. Even if the problem isn’t resolved you ask your wife what she wants to do whether she wants any separation from you, whether she wants to get out of this bond and on the basis of that both can go for mutual consent divorce..! For effective details call me
After 10 years of marriage the initial incompatibility should have settled by now.
If it hasn't then there is no likelihood of it going away anytime soon.
The regular wear and tear is common with every marriage So ignore her tantrums or catcalls.
You have two kids whose welfare should alone be both of your priority.
So reason with her in that angle. Take her to holiday trips which often helps getting rid of personal animosity.
Participate in negotiations with open hearts. Marriage survives ob mutual trust and faith alone. So no preventive actions will save your marriage.
Good luck.
- The said behaviour narrated by you , clearly amounts to cruelty by your wife .
- Cruelty may be physical or mental cruelty.
- If one spouse has a reasonable apprehension in the mind that the other spouse’s conduct is likely to be injurious or harmful, then there is sufficient ground for obtaining divorce due to cruelty by the spouse.
But , your condition is different from others, due to Kids in yours guardianship , their life may be ruined due to your legal actions against her.
Better, to draft a complaint against her behaviour and submit the same to the Police station and DCP of yours area for your safeguard.
If, you dont want to take any police action against her , then you should indicate the same in your complaint,that you are submitting this complaint for your safeguard for any mishappending in future.
Further, you can also lodge a complaint before the counselor of family disputes of your area for resolving the matter in dispute.
She has a behavioral problem and you need to consult a marriage counselor which may help you sorting out this problem you need to go for any legal remedy to this problem because this will increase your problem you have a stable family try to understand and sort out the mutual disputes amicably good luck
You need to file a written Complaint against her. You need to check you can stay with her If not then you need to file Divorce and custody case of children.
The options available to you depend on how you see your future with your wife. If you do not wish to continue anymore in the marriage, you can file a Petition for Divorce on the ground of cruelty. If, however, you want to save your marriage, then i would advise you to try marriage counselling.
Dear Querist
you may file a divorce petition against her before the family court based on cruelty under section 13(1)(ia) of Hindu Marriage Act-1955.
secondly, your mother may file a domestic violence case against her before the magistrate court and claim protection and compensation for her domestic violence towards her under section 18 & 22 of The Protection of Women From Domestic Violence Act-2005.
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If the situation is unbearable or intolerable, you may decide to live separately from her and if necessary you can file a judicial separation petition before the family court.
The rudeness might be an in born quality which may not be rectified at this stage until she realises her mistake and the situation.
For this she may have to consult a marriage counselor or a psychologist.
She may be suffering from some complex, in order to overcome her weakness she may act in this indifferent manner.
1) Yes you can file complaints against her for rude behavior and let women cell appoint a counselor.Let counselor play important in your life.
The house is in my name. I intend to Install CCTV cameras in all the rooms. Is this legal? what are the permission required to install the same. I intend to Install with full knowledge of all the members. However,if it is advisable to install hidden ones I do not mind installing that either. Her actions and her words can both be recorded. Pls advise.
You can install CCTV cameras in living room of your house
2) you should not install any hidden cameras on your bedroom .
3) it is an infringement of her privacy
You can install the same but you can't invade her privacy. If you capture her private moments you can face civil and criminal charges.
Yes, you can install CCTVs but this has to be with her permission, if these are not hidden ones.
You are free to install spy cameras within your house. No permission is required to be taken from any authority.
See there is no law governing cctv.camera still in India and installing inside rooms is the breach of privacy of any member of your house.
The room spaces are private and there are private act in there if the camera capture any kind of sexual activity or anything harming the women privacy then it is a criminal offence and is punishable under IPC.
For instance section 345 C ipc Voyeriusm that reads Any man who watches, or captures the image of a woman engaging in a private act in circumstances where she would usually have the expectation of not being observed either by the perpetrator or by any other person at the behest of the perpetrator or disseminates such image shall be punished on first conviction with imprisonment of either description for a term which shall not be less than one year, but which may extend to three years, and shall also be liable to fine, and be punished on a second or subsequent conviction, with imprisonment of either description for a term which shall not be less than three years, but which may extend to seven years, and shall also be liable to fine.
So this can be used against.you in any matrimonial case or she can approach court on breach of privacy.so better refrain from.doing this.
Installing a CCTV camera in a room can be considered as an act of invading privacy of any person.
In fact it may be considered as a serious offence if she lodges complaint that you have installed the candid camera to record her privacy ( or even those issues concerning her dress change or any other related issue).
You may install a surveillance camera in a public place where you can have her movements or any other incident recorded.