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I'm totally scared at this moment when i'm writing this message to you. My problem:-

I had a casual relationship with a married women ( Sexual ) 4 years ago. Within 1 year of relationship I understood that her intention is moving towards to marry me also found she did not get divorce and then I lied her about my health and separated. Later I blocked her everywhere. 1 year after breakup, she mailed me threatening that she will spoil my life, and then she posted the photo of me and her together ( its a decent photo, and we never took any intimate photos ) in facebook twice tagging my wife and my relatives. Then I got in touch with her just for the sake to remove the facebook picture. After that I came to know she's having another affairs and she's a complete pschyco. I never wanted to cheat her or misuse her. But she's pschyic, she's thinking I used her. She also sent 2,3 suicide threads to me.

she also filed an sexual harrasment complaint on the man with whom she have affiars because he cannot tolerate her torture and planning to drop their relationship ( he is also a married man. )

I never promised to marry her, since she's 4 years elder to me, and we know it will never happen ( she knows that ). 

Due to her physic nature, I'm now afraid what will happen if she files a police complaint ( false ). I'm in no more talking to her since 7 months, and even she too. But she sent me a mail asking for a last conversation. And I'm married happly for 2 years.

Would I be able to file a police complaint against her, if so, what complaint should I give? I really want to get rid of this.
Asked 7 years ago in Criminal Law
Religion: Hindu

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17 Answers

Hello,

I would not advise you to file a case since the law in such case will favor the women.

Stop the conversation with that women immediately as having sexual relationships with a married women amounts to adultery.

Try and end this matter without going to the police and without involving other family members.

I hope you understand

Anilesh Tewari
Advocate, New Delhi
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Her any complaint to police will be highly belated, inasmuch as, all these happenings are more than 4 years old.

Since, your sexual relationship with her was consensual, you cannot be booked for rape or for sexual harassment. At best you're guilty of committing the offence of adultery, that too when you were aware of her marital status, but you still chose to maintain a sexual relationship with her.

Vibhanshu Srivastava
Advocate, Lucknow
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307 Consultations

It is not advisable that you move a police Complaint at this stage, unless this has become completely unbearable for you

Vibhanshu Srivastava
Advocate, Lucknow
9659 Answers
307 Consultations

If she files a complaint then you will have to defend the same.

There is no precaution as such that you can take.

Again i will say stop all conversations and do not worry.

Engage a lawyer as soon as a case is filed by her.

Regards

Anilesh Tewari
Advocate, New Delhi
18090 Answers
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1) dont reply to her emails

2) you have done right in blocking her

3) delete your profile from face book

4) in case lady files false complaint mention that it was consensual sex and she has affairs with 2 other guys

5) if you are threatened file police complaint of criminal intimidation against her under section 506 of IPC

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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7811 Consultations

you should in your statement before police take the plea that it was consensual relationship with no promise of marriage

she has multiple affairs with various men and then blackmails them

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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You should not be worry because it is consensual relationship and she cannot move any complaint or any FIR against you.  you can file a complaint against her for the offence punishable under section 504/506 IPC but you should avoid to initiate any complaint because indulgence in a legal proceeding may give her a chance to file false FIR against you for the offence of adultery.

Shivendra Pratap Singh
Advocate, Lucknow
5127 Answers
78 Consultations

If she filessuch case I amfraid the FIR would be registered and you may also be arrrested.

However the outcome of trial may be in your favour but initial travails would be disproportionately set agaisnt you.

So either manage to convince her anyway or become ready to face the consequences .There is ni other way.

Devajyoti Barman
Advocate, Kolkata
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511 Consultations

Respected sir...

First of all you did mistake as you have your own wife why are you going out for such stupid things...Now ans sir only the from escape her is to convince her and left her with time period your politness will matter here ...No need of worry she can spoil you life in very easy terms so be polite with her after some time she will herself forgot you...

Thanku

Dinesh Sharawat
Advocate, Delhi
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Hi

File a criminal complaint against her for 504, 506 IPC and disclose all the facts to the police about the incidents happened to you, Do Not disclose that you had any kinda physical relation with , simply accept a friendship relation with her and say that now she is blackmailing you for money and getting physical. Did you sign the abortion report?

Thank You

Rahul Jatain
Advocate, Rohtak
5365 Answers
4 Consultations

You can file a police case against her for her herossment stating and eliciting her charecter

P V Reddy
Advocate, Hyderabad
422 Answers
3 Consultations

Please get all the documents from hospital and also from police station the case she registered against her former boyfriend using it as a toll fIle a, case of cheating, extortion against her in respective police station .... also keep those ddocuments with you in case she files against you it will be helpful for you to seek anticipatory bail...

Swarnarka Chowdhury
Advocate, Mysore
1879 Answers
5 Consultations

Dude

In response to your queries, if she goes to police / court she has to prove her claims.

from now on do not respond to her in any mode.

with regard to the statements made by you, if you can collate the relevant documentary proofs about her abortion etc., get authentic reports from hospital.

DO NOT MAKE PASSING COMMENTS, get details of abortion with many other boys as referred in your post......

keep them as evidence to prove your innocence / non involvement with her.

the same may come for your rescue.

good luck

S Srinivasa Prasad
Advocate, Hyderabad
2876 Answers
9 Consultations

My advice is to file a case against her else she may create serious issues in future.

1. Her suicide threads to you will have to be raised in police complaint immediately. You will be caught and forced to face ' Abatement of suicide' charges, if she commit suicide and mention your name on 'suicide note' .

2. Initiate action against her with Cyber crime police for defame your integrity through social media.

3. She can not file sexual harassment case against you because you mentioned that you had a relation ship with her abut 1 year before. She can not have any evidence. The victim has to be sent for medical examination with in 24 hours of the sexual harassment case is made.

4. She can not make false allegations against you like., you promised her to marry. Because she not divorced yet and her act looks it is money extortion and prostitution.

Niranjan
Advocate, Bangalore
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9 Consultations

Filing the first complaint in the matter could only prove detrimental to you. I'll advise you to refrain from doing that.

Vibhanshu Srivastava
Advocate, Lucknow
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307 Consultations

You can send her a legal notice.

You can lodge a police against her for continuous threats to commit suicide or to ruin your future and creating nuisance to you.

You cannot take any steps until she again steps up her tortures against you

You can block her in all the social media networks including phone and remain silent without reacting or getting provoked over her acts or deeds.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
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2335 Consultations

I'm worried what if she builds her own story and files a complaint on me? Long back she warned me about police too.

Let she do it, you can unfold her stories and her affairs with another person too before the police and her threats to the other man and also that she is already married to another person but intentionally developed this relationship may be wreak vengeance agaisnt her husband.

This is a consensual sex and her demands to marry you is illegal, this you can state in the police station if you are summoned for enquiry on the basis of her complaint.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
87009 Answers
2335 Consultations

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