Metally harrasment given by wife and in laws
Dear All,
I have been married in Feb’16 (around 8 months ago). In my family me & my widow mother lives. My elder brother lives separate in same home. Before marriage we did not hide anything about job, salary & family status. My wife is from amritsar.
After marriage, my wife started quarrelling. I am working in other state so I decided she will go with me and then after some time my mom will come and stay with us.
Prior to come my mom, she did not do anything in household activity. Everytime she said, I have some back pain issue. I did all household work like floor cleaning, washing clothes, washing utensils etc. she every time said, she did not do any work in her home so she doesn’t know how to do or manage. I just thought it’s a new work and might be she is not feeling well or she need some time to adjust so I managed everything.
After one and half month she decided to go at her home without any consulting with me. She called her brother and her brother came to get her. I was feeling little bit angry because what I believe atleast she has to discuss plan with me.
I just gave some money to her for shopping and some treatment for back pain. When she was at home I said, if you wanna to buy anything and if more money requires please don’t hesitate and let me know, I will transfer money immediately. (Whatsapp Chat available as proof). Next day her mother called me and started quarrelling on base of text. I was confused Did I say something wrong, because I was just trying to show my love and care. (Call proof)
After some days, I went to my home and came back along with her & my mom. But now again she started quarrelling, Sometimes I stayed in my office after end of my shift due to work load, then everytime she said, if you will not get overtime then why you stay over there. Sometimes I missed my office bus due to completion of house hold work & planned to go to office by scooter then she start argue with me. Why you are wasting money. Everyday on bed she said, I don’t want to live with your mom. I tried to tell her, mom health is not ok. She is suffering with several health problems so I could live her alone. Finally I decided to leave my mom for every 10-15 days at home. So my mom went for 10-15 days and came back every month. I was thinking, may be with span of time my wife will understand importance of my mom and husband. One thing which I strictly said to her, whenever you will go home or your parents please don’t get anything from there . I was thinking without anything my wife is doing all these things or behave like this, if she will get or her parents will give gifts then don’t what she will do.
Now again in starting of this month, my mom went to home because my wife started quarrelling with me. After 2 days she called to her brother and he came at my home and she went along with him. She was 6 month pregnant. I told her, please don’t go in this situation, and please don’t travel. (Voice recording available) But she kept some suit and jewellary. Her brother insist her, I told him don’t break my house. But no one listened. She did not call me from that day. Now today after 13 days I called her to know when she will come back. Her father picked the phone and said don’t call us. I will shoot you. Now request you all, please suggest what shall I do. They have just spoil my life.
Asked 7 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
Dear Sir,
With continuation of my previous question "mentally harassment given by wife and in laws". We contacted to Red Cross mahila Mandal of Jalandhar to save marriage. They tried to contact them but her father refused to come for counseling actually her parents are illiterate. Her father said, Don't call us if you want then come at home with your mother & get back your wife. Personally I don't want to go there because my wife went with her brother by her own decision third time without my permission or discussion. So if this time I go there then she can repeat the things in future also & they can threaten me & my mom also. My wife is an educated girl but she has no mind to judge right & wrong. She is doing all things which her parents guide. Its mentally harassment for me & my family member. I want to close this matter either she come back or take decision for mutual separation. I live alone in other state. Every moment I just think about my life like what happened with me or what will be the next. Sometimes I feel, I will mad or to commit suicide if everything will not sort out. Now I am planning to file complaint against them in police.
Is it right decision or not? If yes then where I can put the complaint in her district where they reside or in my native place.. Please suggest... if this above decision is not correct then what shall I do?.
Important point is... She is pregnant.. I have soft corner for this... but I cannot tolerate her cruelty because every person has a self respect..
Asked 7 years ago