Suicide threats by my wife
Hello everyone,
This is a two part query
1)
I've been married for past 5 years. Wife is an epileptic and I knew about her disease before marriage and still agreed to marry her. That is not a problem with me, i am and was fine with it, however; her behavior and attitude post marriage has caused me lots of mental trauma. She is extremely rude to my old parents and family members. Constantly mocks them for being poor farmers from backward caste (she is a bramhin and I am a Kshatriya). Doesn't let them visit my home. She forms good friendship with my colleagues' wives and then tell them false stories about how me and my family harass her. She does the same in her school (where she teaches K.G. kids) and with our neighbors as well. Whenever there is a fight, she calls friends and neighbors and creates a big tamasha. She even calls my manager and speaks ill about me.
Not just this, she often gets extremely violent and thrashes my head or scratches my face with her nails.
I purchased a flat worth 50 lac rupees last year . Her father gave 5 lac to me for the purchase and asked me to put my wife's name in the sale deed as well. I did so. is there a way undo this? NOTE- I have paid 22 lac cash from my personal pocket. Even After this, my wife began taunting me that I was able to purchase a flat because of her father. And because my parents did not contribute anything, she didn't allow my parents to visit me since I bought the flat. Last year, we had a fight over this issue so she created a big scene and left the house, but came back the very next day. She assured me that she will not quarrel anymore. But her assurance was short-lived. She quarreled again and again till I got fed up and took her to her city where a meeting was arranged between her parents and mine. It was mutually agreed on the 11th of January 2016, that she will live with her parents for three months. When I returned back, to my utter surprise, I saw that she had already come back. I told her that I cannot live with her and I'll find a separate house for myself. She created a hue and cry and has been threatening me with suicide since then. I am very scared as she constantly shows me a rope and says that if you leave me, I'll hang myself in this house.
At one instance, she hid my passport, education and employment documents and was not willing to give it back. She did give it back eventually after a good quarrel. She even at times called up some of my friends and said them ill words (you are breaking my home and that sort of things). My friends have broken relationships with me because of her behavior.
2)
I have spoken to a lawyer here but I am not too convinced with his ideas. He has suggestes me to write things in divorce application which are not true (at least the dates are not true). e.g she misbehaved with my friends who came to my birthday (this is not true). I am not willing to put such things, I am an honest guy.
I also read somewhere to file an police NC (which I am fine with) for suicide threats. Can some suggest me the process to do it and content of it (if there is any format of it). Will police note down my NC if i go alone to police station (i am not a local here, I don't speak local language).
I really need a divorce and to be honest I am very very pissed of with this entire nautaki of hers. I am frankly planning to leave all this (including taking a sabbatical form my job) and go to my hometown till all this entire thing is sorted. would it be okay if i do so?
Thanks,
A husband (will to be Ex-husband)
Asked 8 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
Hi,
A very sincere thanks to all of you for your answers.
I am facing a new problem. Since the day I returned from my hometown, there has been an immense change in my wife's behaviour. She has been immensely sweet and good-natured, doesn't pick up fights with me and says that she repents everything she did and now wants to perform penance. She said that she will agree to everything I say, will apologize to my parents as well as friends for her bad behaviour.... and all she wants in return is that I should stay with her.
To be frank, her changed behaviour is scaring me. As I know her in and out, I am pretty convinced that there is something very fishy going on in her mind.
I want to know....
1. In what ways can she implicate/frame me by being so kind to my face?
2. How shall I collect the evidence when she doesn't quarrel with me at all?
3. If she commits/attempts to commit suicide while she is in the city and I am at my hometown, will I be held responsible?
4. Can I deny her entry into my house after I've filed the divorce?
Waiting for the response of the esteemed experts.
Regards
Asked 8 years ago