I was married an year ago. At the time of marriage they said the groom earns 1 lakh and is doing MBA in distance. They purchased a house and my husband has kept a loan for 40 L. We were told 40k per month will get deducted. So my parents thought I could happily live with that remaining 50k or 60k. But later on I ask for anything to buy he says I don’t have money left. So I started buying my things on my own with my money. Before marriage we kept a condition that I’m going to work even aftr marriage. My in-laws said they are not interested but my husband made a promise to my dad that he will send her. I refused for the marriage.Then my in-laws said okay we will send her after six months but later after six months they kept on postponing and even my health was not good so I’ve decided to do after an year. And now they are forcing me to have a kid. Let’s think of it after a child is born. I asked my husband what’s all this and he said u make your trials for the job and I’ll support you. He said but you have 3 conditions. It should be near by like 2 kms far from home, household work shouldn’t get distracted and the pay should be minimum 25k per month. I agreed for it. I’m basically an MBA graduate and worked for an year before marriage at my hometown. And now when I say I have an interview they are refusing me to go and they say have kids. They are mentally torturing me. Dress like dis only no western outfits, my food habits everything. I’m literally loosing my peace. They were so many days I keep on crying and my husband simply says be strong don’t cry. Their interference in my life is obstructing my peace of mind. I’m not allowed to go out of the house without my husband. If he takes me then only I have to step out or else I have to simply stay back. At the end of the day the only thing I see is me doing house hold work and nothing more than that. My husband office timings are from afternoon to night before marriage. At the time of marriage they said he will change the timings after the marriage. But he didn’t. He goes in the aftn at 2pm and returns home at 12am and even 1am sometimes. He sleeps till mrng 10am and he’s not aware of what work I’m doing at home. My mother in law acts near him that she’s only doing everything but I’m doing nothing. I’m really fed up of all this acting and I’m really loosing hope in my life because of them. I’m lacking peace of mind coz of the mental torture. They force me to get their things done with out even thinking about my interest. Don’t I have the right to eat, dress and lead my lifestyle as I wanted to. I feel like committing suicide even because of their behaviour. My husband literally doesn’t care about my feelings he just makes sure that I listen to his mother. Please someone advice and help me out so that it shouldn’t affect the relationship between me and my husband. Thanks in advance
Youcan visit family counsellor with your husband to resolve your differences
2)in alternative call meeting of elders of both families
3) if no reconciliation is possible return to your parents place and take a job
4) if your husband wants to save his marriage he would agree to permit you to work
1. You have to decide what you want. If you want to continue the marriage then you have no remedy before the court. You should rather persuade your husband to see a marriage counsellor.
2. You may file a DV complaint case against your in-laws to seek protection from all acts of domestic violence, but it may impact the relationship between you and your husband.
You need to file domestic violence complaint against them. There is no way through which you can do anything without affecting your relationship with husband
As per the Indian Constitution Act, Article 21 gives every Indian to live life freely as per his or her own wish.
Here in this situation take your husband to family counselor for counseling.
Hello,
if you want to get the matter resolved and doesn’t want the relationship to hamper then you may go for counselling sessions.
If however you do not fit deem to live with husband then you may go ahead and file a divorce on the ground of mental cruelty.
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See in your case only way to resolve difference is talk to your husband and stay separately from in laws so that you can focus on your career and life.
In case you file a complaint or FIR or any case the relationship might get sour and that is not advisable.
You patiently with help of family talk to him and get matter sorted out if not then you can complaint before the mahila police station.
It may be time for Marriage Counseling,Marriage counseling can help you rebuild your relationship. Or decide that you'll both be better off if you split up. Either way, marriage counseling can help you understand your relationship better and make well-thought-out decisions. .
Dear
Suicide is never an option for these small problems in life.
Go to your parents house for some time so that you and your husband should get some space to refresh thoughts.
Then talk to your husband about the problems you are facing and ask him solve these problems if he acknowledge your thoughts then go back with him or ask him for separation just to teach him a lesson.
Don't take any legal step at initial stage if you don't want separation.
Dear Madam,
There are several enactments in favor of married women. You must show heat of the litigation to your husband and mother in law otherwise you cannot sustain in such unbearable atmosphere. You can file Domestic Violence case.
Further, she can also file an application under Section 12 of Domestic Violence Act, thereby seeking compensation for mental harassment. In case she requires residence, then she can file application under Section 19 of the said Act for seeking right to residence.
file Domestic Violence case seeking following reliefs:
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Under this situation you may better ask your husband to look for a house separately away from his parents house because you had enough of their tortures and humiliations.
You can inform him that it will no more possible for you to stay in the same house and continue the married life and in order to save the marriage, it would be better that you both live separately away from them.
If your husband is not listening you, then better you go to your mother's house and stay there for few months, let him reconcile the differences and agree for your proposal to live separately away from your matrimonial home.
If it do not work then you can plan to file a domestic violence case agaisnt your mother in law and any other person who are responsible for such tortures which will enable them to arrive at an amicable solution after which you can withdraw the case.
