Hello sir,
My Name is Ashish Kumar. I hope to get well-informed legal suggestion here. Thank you already.
I seek your legal advice regarding my son's divorce procedures. His affair started with his teacher who used to teach in his class 10th school. He was just 16 years old back in 2003 and that lady teacher was 25 years old i.e. 9 years of an age gap. The lady teacher was already a divorced lady and had given birth to a baby, from her first marriage, who couldn't survive after birth. Her affair with my son went off and on for the next 5 years. In 2008 my son got admission in Engineering college. She had seen the bright future of my son and his well to do family and started pressurizing my son for marriage. My son refused to marry her because he was just a student and was not settled with any job. She conspired with his HOD and college Director to create more pressure on my son. The HOD and Director were influenced by her and started threatening my son for restricting him from the college if he does not marry her. My son succumbs to the extreme pressure by her and her powerful accomplices and on Dec 1st, 2010 ( He was just 21 yrs old) he got married to her in Arya Samaj Mandir in Aliganj, Lucknow. It was an inter cast marriage.
No members of both families joined the marriage. Only HOD and a neighbour (from her side) and my son's two friends (from my son's side) were present in the marriage. The marriage was done in a hasty manner with a few photographs taken for future proofs. They also got a marriage certificate from Arya Samaj Mandir, however, the court marriage has not been done till date. After marriage also things didn't work out between them and my son was not happy. My son never considered himself married as this marriage has been a secret till date and it was conducted forcefully. In 2016 my son applied for Government forms declaring himself unmarried. In 2017 my son got a government job, posted in Chennai. After his job, they were living separately. She was again creating pressure to take her to Chennai and in May 2018 they officially shifted to Chennai as well. But by July 2018 they got separated again because of her bad and aggressive nature, and since then they had been living separately and also had no physical or emotional connections. It’s almost been a year they got separated. Also, it is to note that, the Arya Samaj Mandir marriage certificate is lost and there are only photographs as a proof. Now they want to go for a divorce. The lady as of now is ready for a divorce but we cannot guarantee (because of our previous bad experiences) if she will follow her words in court proceedings. Having said all this I have a few queries that I may need your expert advice on.
1- Is this marriage fully legally valid?
2- Is there any threat to my son's government job?
3- What is the legal validity, if they get separated on an agreement paper (stamp paper) proceeded by any lawyer, without actually getting into the proper legal divorce ?
Asked 6 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
A few more questions that are bothering me are as follows-
4- If you are suggesting for a proper legal divorce process then, how to proceed and what should be the grounds on which we can make it as easy as possible and make our side strong.
5- Are there any legal loopholes in this marriage based on which they can get divorced easily?
6- If it is not mutual but contended divorce then how much time approx it is going to take and what are the points that can be crucial to this case?
7- What are our legally strong points that can help us win this case in court.
8- How is alimony going to be decided and what if she demands an unreasonable amount?
Thank you very much for showing the patience to read all the way down. I really hope to get a proper advice from your team. Thanks again. Plz help! Regards
Asked 6 years ago
Thanks to all of you for answering my questions. I am really grateful to receive such informed suggestions. Some of the suggestions are really great and helpful in deciding the initial steps. Before I consult one of the respected lawyers, I have a few queries still to be addressed. I request you to kindly provide me with proper legal suggestions, based on which I can approach you to discuss the matter further.
1- If it is mutual divorce then approx how much time it is going to take (average) to get the divorce. (in this given conditions)
2- My son doesn't have the Arya Samaj marriage certificate. Can he apply for the divorce without a certificate or he has to get a duplicate copy from the issuer organization?
3- If possible can anyone tell the procedure of getting a duplicate copy of the Arya Samaj marriage certificate? Can he alone approach them to get a certificate or both (couple) have to go to get a duplicate copy of the certificate?
4- Can alimony be settled once in a lump sum or it has to be paid per month from his salary and for what duration?
These are the last few questions, after that, I will consult you for further filing and suggestions. Thanks a lot!!
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Asked 6 years ago
Thank you to all the respected lawyers for taking the time to answer my queries. I really appreciate it.
For this long, I have been trying to negotiate with her to come to a mutual divorce filing but she is demanding 25 lakh for settlement on Whatsapp of my son. It is now the time to hire a lawyer and proceed with the case,
I have a few more queries, I request you all to answer them as well, your help is highly valued.
1- I came to know that while marrying anyone in Arya samaj mandir if one is a divorcee then it is mandatory to produce an affidavit for declaration. In my son's marriage, she hasn't declared it. Is this enough to prove that she has hidden her previous marriage to trap my son, and hence lead to easy divorce?
2- She has blackmailed my son for 25 lakh on WhatsApp, will this be to any help?
3- As per the rules of Arya Samaj mandir marriage, every marriage done through this organization should be registered to court. My son's marriage is not registered. Will this help.
4- My son had been sending her money until the last month as she had no job. He also said that it is the last time I am paying, coz I would settle this once it for all before the court. So, he stopped giving her money from this month. Any suggestions on this action?
Thank you
Asked 6 years ago