Hi I am from Bangalore, I got engaged on June and my marriage was fixed on 22-October-2017. After engagement I was not speaking with bride as I thought it would be better to start speaking after the marriage. But bride's parents informed to my parents that your son is not speaking with my daughter. Then, my father informed me on this, then I started speaking with her. Everything was going fine. Bride informed me that she doesn't want to go for job after marriage, even my parents are not interested to send daughter in law to job. Bride's mother is a government school teacher. My parents gave invitation to all the relatives and friends, My family members were preparing for the marriage. 13 days before (9-October-2017) the marriage date, bride's mother expired, due to heart attack. Next day, Me and my parents went to bride's home for funeral. On the same day, they informed to us that marriage will be postponed for 3 months, as bride will be getting Government Job. If she gets married she won't get job. My parents didn't agreed, my parents tried to convince the bride's side people to do the marriage on the same day, all the responses are negative. My parents told me that don't speak with the girl, they wanted to convince them and I stopped speaking with her. After few days, My father tried to call bride's father, he is not responding properly, sometimes he is not receiving the call as they told we are in sad mode, don't pressure us. My parents informed to all the relatives and friends, that marriage is postponed. Marriage date was over. After 1 or 2 weeks of marriage date, my father called to bride's father, Bride's father informed that he is not ready to do the marriage, he is blaming on me that I didn't take care of the bride after her mother's death, also he is blaming that I didn't shown Graduation certificate and I am not working in IT company (false complaints). My parents asked them to do finalize but they are not doing, they told not to come to their house for discussion, I don't know what to do. I am not interested to cancel the marriage. Please let me know what can be done.
File a FIR against this girl and her father for unilaterally calling off the marriage. Get them booked under section 420 IPC.
Besides, send a legal notice to them and seek recovery of all the expenses incurred by you on this proposed marriage that has been called off.
1) if the girl does not want to marry you it is better you move on in life
2) the girl family had valid reasons for postponing the marriage on account of her mother demise
3) return all gifts received by you and your family members
Hi, When the girl and her parents are not interested in marriage you can't force her to marry you and legally you can't do anything.
See, try to solve this matter wisely. Both of the parties need to sit together and discusses all the issues. I dont think there are the major issues between the parties. Lets have a face to face meeting and clear all the issues calmely. Show them you degree and appointment letter and last salary slip. You can also ask them for the investigation and inquiry of the education and job of bride. And ask them what they want to do finally.
Marriage can not be performed agaisnt the will of the bride.This is not a small decision and if you indeed wish to make this marriage then first talk to the bride and understand her concerns and try to remove it.
Forceful marriage agaisnt the strg will of the bride may not be conducive for a happy married life.
So talk to them and the girl and if their grievance is sorted out then only go for marriage. Else it is better to avoid this.
While cancelling the engagement do return all the items gifted from the girl's side.
Respected sir...
I will advise you socially rather than legally ..This is good for you that marriage was not consummated yet...As they are doing such a narrow thing prior to marriage you can imagine what could they do after the marriage ...Just talk to your father only and ask him to finalize in his own way take decision ...And sir they are blaming you for not care of there daughter you would better know how much care you did to her ...So be relex and let your father decide ...You can tell him your wishes prior to his decision ...
Thanku
Socially : cancel the marriage and save your self from a pressurised life after marriage (as per your description.
Gather few elderly persons and talk to them to finalize.
Legally : File a complaint for unnecessarily creating pressure on you and your family.
Section 420IPC can also be attracted .
Do return the gifts and get the life moving
Hi, it is advisable to move on as thier is no point if they are not willing to perform the marriage .. However if there were any monetary transactions that were made during the engagement you can file a police complaint of cheating to recover the money and Gold items
Legally you can not force her to marry you.
Yes if calling of the engagement has caused some financial harm to you then you can claim the same.
Also, if you take my advise I would not advise you to go for Marriage if there are so many issues before the marriage. It is better that you move on.
Thanks and Regards
The fact is that they are not interested in continuing with the proposed marriage anymore and have categorically stated that have cancelled the marriage proposal.
Under the given situation, you cannot force the girl for marrying you against her wishes.
She can very well state that she is not interested in continuing the proposal for marriage.
As a matter of fact, why dont you talk to the girl and know about her ides in this issue directly instead of talking to her father or beating around the bush.
While you talk to her you can very clearly make her believe the facts about the details of your employment and educational qualification etc.
If she is still not convinced and not willing to marry you then you cannot force her, if you do so she may initiate legal action in a different manner which may harm you and your family members.
