Divorce due to depression

Hi, I have been married to my husband for 9 years now. It was a love marriage. Initially it was all okay but as I started knowing him deeply he seems to be like a person who refuses to evolve and learn or grow. He also does not respect my parents or family and has manipulated many times to keep me away from them. I was pregnant in the second year of marriage and asked me to go for an abortion under the grounds of financial problems and I went ahead with what he said at that time. Under acute financial stress, I had to later move abroad to be able to make a better living and save money. I supported him throughout our married life financially or otherwise but failed to get emotional or physical love from him as desired. When I started living alone, I realised how incompatible we are and how happy I feel without him. All my relations are strained as I have always prioritised his needs above mine and have always tried to make him look good under all circumstances. But we lack communication and his mental health is not allowing me to be happy in this anymore. Moreover, I have slipped into a depression myself and he chooses to gaslight the situation instead of understanding me by saying that my mental state is very common for many people in the world. I want to go ahead with a divorce and have finally spoken up about issues which I had suppressed for many years to my parents. They too have been supportive but he still thinks that my family is trying to influence me to get a divorce from him. What should I do in this situation? Please advice, thanks.