Squeezed out of my own identity

I have been working all through my married life i.e. for the past 17 years. My average income must be in the vicinity of average 6-7 lac per annum. The problem is that my wife offers no freedom to me to spend my own money. I earn the money, she transfers it by cheque to her own account and fails to give me more than a DTC bus fare i.e. Rs. 50-100 a day. I have no money. I have had no money for the past 17 years to even have a cup of coffee with my friends. We have no financial obligations. No loans, no parents to take care off. No rent (I own my parental house now). Still I have no access to money earned by me. On one occasion , 7 years ago , I managed to spend 300 rupees on food (eating out with friends) and my wife broke my finger. Then about 2 years ago I took a couple of friends out for coffee and spent 1000 rupees and she hit me with a big serving spoon on my ear which kept hurting for months. She expects me to work and get promoted and earn more and more and take the right career decisions and survive on 50 rupees a day including everything. How can I take all the right decisions at work when I have no right to take a decision to spent even a 100 rupees by my own free will. I want a divorce. [deleted]