Society's harrasment - what can i do legally

Recently, we moved to a society at Kolkata. The owner was a colleague of my husband. Around 20 other known colleagues stay in the same society. We were happy to move in as known people around will render a secure feeling. HUsband n myself came to see flat, twice. The manager was there, but he did not enlighten us further. The talks happen straight between the owner n us and soon we occupied the flat. There was a bit of maintenance work to be done, which the owner requested us to conduct on his behalf. All this meeting the contractors happend in the society office only. Being the lady who runs the house, i have been supervising the works ,manytimes. The day our luggage came, the manager came n refused to let us unload. I was in a state of shock.My husband was at work and I am generally the person who is involved with anything and everything at home. They said, you have not received permission from society and i asked him, why did you not tell me,such a thing is required.. So the argument was further taken to the President of the society, who was a man of absolute no class. He wanted to slap my husband, for not knowing the rules. He wanted to slap the houseowner too, for not letting us know. He wanted me to do things as needed to keep a man happy. n be in the good books of manager of society, so my requirements,when husband is not there can be satisfied. I was in a state of shock. Finally, somehow, we shifted half of the luggage, without using the lift. a security was on guard there. Again,next day,when the last few came,as second half, the security started abusing me n workers for using their valuable lift. I swore, my workers have not used them,and a security was posted to monitor, so why the wrong accusation. Later,as carpenter came to fix n help in settling too, they said, tenants cannot do this and that. and with held the tools of the carpenter at gate. I was told then, i am not adhering to rules and again 3 hrs session by president. He bad mouthed everyone.I was deeply harassed. I am a strong woman. I do not cry over such things.It hurts and my instincts are to fight,if i am not worng. I have no shame to apologise, whenever I am wrong. Later ,the society do not even give us the receipts,on our name. Its given to house owner only. They shamelessly took donations from us for their durgapooja and all where we are not even involved. Recently, their was a circular, saying some pooja is there and need to know our thoughts. i wrote not interested. Yesterday, i got a notice, saying my comment not interested is not appreciated. My husband was noticed to counsel me. I find it really insulting. I do not wish to leave the society, many friends are there for support. Kindly advise, how strong I can go legal . Thank you