Can a women stay in same house even after filing divorce

We are married for 20 years . After 2 years of marriage , I came to know about the bad habits of drinking , smoking , gambling , theft nite outs etc which lead to petty arguments. After two years of marriage , he stopped taking responsibility of her and the children forcing me to continue her job leaving the kids with her mother. From last 18 years she is acting alone as single parent of the children and is raising the children single handedly. Just to keep my mouth shut, from past 2 month he has started giving me 5000/- a month only. No other expense is borne by him and he does not help me also in any domestic work. In 2008 he attempted to suicide and there are such chances in future also. I am also held responsible and blamed for any mishappening in the house. I am is taunted for being a south Indian and pressurised to such an extent that on many occasions she was forced to leave the house with me children and stay in a rented house. He has disturbs me at work place . Flied two police complaints ,police are of the opinion that we should go for divorce as it is a risk to both our lives . Consulted two advocates also , they are of the opinion that I should bear him for two more years till my children’s education is completed. I cannot afford rented house and children’s education and upbringing. But now it has become unbearable for her as it has adversely affected her health and I am under depression and I have lost hearing of one ear in a stroke. Kindly advice.