Husband disposing wife's properties against her will and mentally harming his kids's mother

He found a business opportunity where he requested a sum of money to be borrowed from me. I denied flat, for just a few days earlier he has annoyed me by telling not to work then how would it be fair to later request a huge borrow? He has been begging me so badly for days as he could not get it from his friends/relatives. I suggested to ask Zakat foundation to aid him in starting a business. He tried by calling them and said he cannot be able to get it because he has a piece of the land. Then it flooded me, and thus I reminded him of causing me pain here and that he accepted my Zakats when he was himself aware of this fact?! I told him to sell his land for this business, as I hated why he keeps it with other disputes which is not necessary to explain here. He said he does not want Zakats and will return them all as all he wanted urgently is my money. I patiently drafted a loan paper to be signed which has this business loan written along with other amounts which he owe me like returning Zakat, advance Zakat, school fees, cash borrows, household expenses, etc. I also conditioned that I wanted him to share household chores daily as just the monthly repayments are not sufficient.. He agreed and sweeped and mopped all over as he wanted to borrow soon on that day itself. I have not drafted this condition on a loan paper as my mother objected it but she and my uncle are a witness to my share of household and family responsibility condition. Now, after my financial help he is the same hypocrite. He does not help in the household chores or looking after my kids and said it is the responsibility of the mother. I have been trying to put up with him to spend more time with his family so that my burden can be shared with him like having lunch with his family and how I wished to improve in buying fridge, kitchen, etc. slowly. He says I am severing relationship with his mother and he keeps on going wherever he wishes with our family vehicle, he told me twice that he will give me its money for its possession, but it did not happen! I have banned him from coming to my house if he does not have any responsibility towards his family. Then just soon after few days, he forcefully took his children to his house without my permission to enjoy the family functions whereby I denied this benefit earlier if he constantly refuses to face the consequences of raising them! I reminded him this was the same case when I helped him to start the business. The household expenses which I drafted as "maybe waived", is now demanding because of his constant refusal in providing similar kindness by helping in household for a term I spent the expenses. When I have been deducting his repayments first from other than shop loan, because I can later file a case if he still harms me. He insisted his wishes and refused to repay me this month to get my original loan paper claiming to sign the repayments on its back side. My remedy to sell his business for the reversal of my "helps"