Issues with mother that is ruining my marriage

I am 32 years old male, working in an IT company. I have 10 years of experience but haven't been able to make a great career from it. From as long as I can remember, I have been oppressed by my mother. She used to say ungodly things about me to me, when I was little. I wasn't keen on studies back then, and that used to fuel her anger further more - that is my understanding. My father wasn't keen on living his life with my mother anyway - again, it's my understanding. He no more now. He died in 2011 due to cancer. When my father was alive, they used to fight every day. I used to wake up on Sundays hearing them fight. Every other day, my father used to leave early for work - by 0600 hrs. so Sunday would only be the day she'd have to start off early. Otherwise, it'd start when he returned from work. I have grown up watching them fight. I lost interest in studies. I started scoring poor. That made things even worse for my mother and in turn, me. I haven't seen my father hit my mother. I don't think he could have; I don't want to go there. But that's not my point I am trying to make. It was after his death I started noticing about my mother's character. I was around 25ish then. She wanted to control things, and when I started to retaliate she'd say nasty things about me. Demeaning things. Things that no mother should say. I started noticing these things she used to say to me and as time went by, I decided to stop talking to her. She would (and still does) instigate fights talking about the past. It's taking a toll on me. Now I am married. It was an arranged marriage. My wife has gotten a job here in Bangalore and my mother says nasty things about her too. She even curses her and her family; says she's probably sleeping around with other people, like how her mother does. She's a nice person, my wife. She is very close to her family back home, in Kerala. I know how she feels when my mother talks like that about her and about her family. It's been less than a year since my marriage, and I am already thinking she's going to leave me because of my mother's constant shitshow. If it wasn't for my marriage, I would have left my mother and everyone else behind and just gone away. I could have done it before that to, but I was pursuing my studies so I couldn't leave the city. I can do the same thing with my wife, but my mother is going to create stories saying she (my wife) persuaded me in doing this. She is going to do what she has always done - talk ill. This is a tip of the iceberg that I have complained against my mother about. Right now, I want to know what my options are. I want to take my mother to a psychiatrist and have her head checked. She won't come, obviously. I just don't want my mother to be a part of our lives. She will only make things harder. I will be in severe depression again.