I've applied for a divorce

Hello, I got married 2 years ago. Since the first day of the marriage she started arguing insulting me over trivial things. She lived with me for one and a half months same way arguing with my parents, sisters, sister and me. Thereafter she went back with her parents to their house. The house we were living is in the name of my sister and her husband I don't have a single property. At the time of the marriage I was employed with a noida based organization. 1. She started sending me texts that says never ever come to my house to take me with you and come with divorce papers whenever coming to my hometown. I didn't send any reply to her texts. 2, after a few months she started sending me texts that said I love you. Please come back and take me to your house. Sometime she sent text insulting my parents and abusing my relatives. 3. Thereafter she started sending me text to give her expenses. I didn't respond to a single text as I had gotten to know that she can't live with me. 4, meanwhile I lost my job as the organization I was working with lost the project and I had to leave. 5. After one year of our marriage I applied for a divorce in my hometowns district court. Before I applied for a divorce my father disowned me from his property. 6. One fine day my wife came alone to my house where my mother did not allow her to enter into the house. When she started shouting my mother simply called 100 and called police that took them to the police station and after a compromise my wife left the house. The very next day she went to my office and got to know that I had not been working anymore. 7. Now she has filled a case of dowry under 498A and a domestic violence against us. We recently attended a mediation last week where I was advised by my advocate to say that I want to live with my wife provided I have been disowned by my parents and I am jobless so that she doesn't want to come with you. But she wants to come and stay and I don't want to live with her at any cost. I have tried my best to convince her to stay out of my life but she is not getting and demanding 40 lakhs to abandon me. Please suggest me a best solution. 8. What should I say in the next mediation. Can I upfront say that I am not going to live with you.