Divorce/annulment on the grounds of cheating and compensation

This is my second marriage; completed 8 months. i am a gazetted govt. employee; spouse-med rep. v are separated more than 1month. out f the remaining 7months, v had just 5 intercourses, without satisfaction. frm night 1, he was reluctant to even remove his undergarment. i believe he was aware f his impotence b4 marriage. moreover, he lied abt his age, education,work and financial status.he lied dat he is a graduate(but did not pass), he is older than me (but is 1yr younger), exagerated abt owning and managing a pharmacetical company covering 4districts (but is a working partner and has 3 other partners)etc. i have no siblings and my mom and i were convinced by the sweet and confident presentation of his biodata and also believed his maternal uncle's words who stays near our house. Aftr marriage, apart from unsatisfactory nights, i had to witness continual lies from him,be it a trivial or an important matter. Moreover, he constantly projects abt low financial status.I get irritated by his activities and almost lost trust in what he says. i hav certain health issues which i truthfully presented before marriage. he was least bothered abt it saying illness can happen to anyone anytime.As it is risky for me to get pregnant i desired for a baby through surrogation. He is neither interested for impotency treatment and enhance sexual life nor encouraging to hav a baby. his interest is to go for bhajans in temples, attend all major temple festivals, lead a carefree life like a child, cater to the needs of his brother's family and be a helping hand to anyone in the locality.v did not go even for small honeymoon trip. I felt dat he is scared f his near and dear ones for spending money for our enjoyment. Of late, v frequently had fights and now he stays with his mother and brother's family and i with my mom aged 80.Now he/his family blames that he was generous to accept me inspite of me being a divorcee and having ill health, yet I am not accepting him as my husband. he does not admit that he lied to me about his personal details and accuses me of being rude and abusing him as a fraud(he recorded our telephonic conversation where he was deliberatively sweet and patient and i was unaware f it). I am really shattered that there is no scope of trust between us anymore. he came into my life with lies and still playing games. It being a second marriage and the social stigma associated with it, i want to continue in this relation. Moreover, i still like him,maybe because he did not harass me physically and maybe i feel sorry for his impotence/inefficiency but cant tolerate his spontaneous lies and irresponsible attitude. i wish for either a reconciliation in the presence of valid mediator like a lawyer, the agreement preferably written, or an annulment of this marriage on charges of misrepresentation of personal details and impotence. I wish for compensation of money for mental harrassment, cheating and destroying my future if separation is inevitable.I am 41 and he is 40. what are the steps to be initiated for reconciliation? if going for separation, are these sufficient reasons for annulment. If so, what are the evidences to be collected. can i request for his medical examination? Please help me. I am desperate for the valuable guidance.