Section 9 - calling back my wife legally

Sir, my married life is 11 years. my always keep allegations against me and my family. 1. I am married in March 2006 which is arranged. we stayed only 1 and half month and she called her family and she left with the reason that i am coming to home very late (after 9 PM). I am IT engineer due to work load / project i used to come little late. I told their family but their family blammed me that i have girl frd that is the reason i am coming late. i was calm and after so many meetings with her he came back after 1 year. 2. after 6 months of stay she left that i dont like this place and then after so many consultation personally she came back after 1 and half year. 3. i got job in abroad. I took her immediately. we stayed 6 months and came to India for the purpose of her sister marriage. then she was pregnant which is hidden and she went to abortion without my information. she denied to come with me due to she want to continue her studies. after 8 months she came back. before coming she said the she got abortion with help of her mother and sister. I will come back and ready to have baby. I got shocked and agreed because i love her. 4. i dropped her at the time 4 months pregnancy as she wants to stay with her family (she stayed with me 5 months). 5. now onwards started harassment from my in laws that I have to send my salary to her account and all my parents assets and my assets to be transferred with her name. then only you are my husband or she dont want to accept me at all as husband. I did not respond and i was calm and i used to send money 2 Lack for her maintenance. she did not lift my phone and in laws also disconnecting my call. my parents does not know all this because i am single son and i dont want to distrube them. 6. I went at the time of delivery time. no one respect me even my mother in law thrown all the things what i purchased for my kid (cloths, baby items for next 6 months) in dustbin and they forced me to leave from home. while leaving they said that you are allowed when you come with assets. 7. they did not inform me ever that i got baby girl. one of their relative informed to my parents and we went to see baby to hospital. during the travel i told to my parents regarding the situation what i am facing. My parents said wait some more time that you got baby now she may realize what she is doing. My parents requested and went with few of relatives to her home and took her to my home and made naming ceremony. no one attended for this. 8. she called me and she booked tickets and reached this country all of sudden and she started harassment. all house hold things to be done by me and i used to do all to my kid and used to go office. this time she stayed with me around two years. no sexual relation during this period. y because she said she dont want kids and she wants to leave if i force. 9. my bad time that i never drink but i used to smoke more due to my family harassment. I suffered with cancer. we went to india for treatment and after treatment, we went to few of temples. she left me with the reason, she said that she wants to come to temple visit if i promise no one come with us. but unfortunately my sister and parents came along with us. by giving this reason, she left. my parents said sorry and we all requested a lot but she left. 10. she came back after some consultations, arranged schooling to my kid (kg1) and after 3 months she started harassment and again i used to do all house hold duties and one day she insult me a lot in front of my manager as he came with his family to my home without prior information. I abused her once my manager left, i got agree because she is going to spoil my relation in my company and my career. she given warning that i leave you. I went to outside for few minutes due to i want to stop discussion at that point, while going outside she also going outside then i turn back she called neighbors that i was killing her. i take her to inside my home forcefully and i given slit slap (not even forced). I went outside. she did not open the door that night and after that i went to office and she was not there at home after come from office. on one picked phone from their family. my father called then they said she was coming her mothers home. my parents went airport and requested to stay with them even went to her home and requested twice but she dont want to come. I went along with my relatives after 5 months but she dont want to come. I decided and requested her alot for mutual understanding for diverse. they are telling that they dont want give diverse and even they dont want to come back. I took one of my frd who is layer suggestion and he sent notice. then they sent return notice by blaming me and my parents that i was harassed and asking more dowry / demanding money. she mentioned in notice that she is ready to join with leagal agreement of all her demands. My lawyer is suggesting to file section 9 case... what are the positives and negatives? my concern is that I want to my kid and diverse too and i am ready to pay compensation how much she demands (she dont want compensation and she dont want to give diverse too) what should i do?? i am suffering with cancer, is there any way to escap compensation and take my kid with us?