Hi
Tell your wife that you want the custody of your kids, if she wants divorce let her get divorce leave the kids to you.since your wife is demanding divorce, she might agree to leave the kids to your custody.so for the next date in the court that is on 01/03/2107 dont agree for the divorce. Before the date tell your lawyer that you want the custody of the kids and talk to your wife about it.
you should have insisted the custody your kids when you realized that your wife was with another man.
Now you have filed for divorce and have not asked for custody of your kids, so if you don't object the custody going to your wife the court will order the custody to your wife. so talk to your lawyer and make corrections in the consent terms , then only agree for the final order on 01/03/2107.
Your wife will agree to this if she really wants go away with the other man in picture.
Remember once the mutual consent is ordered , the custody will be specifically ordered to her in the final Decree and judgment, so then it will not be possible to change it.
so now you should take steps to have the custody of your children, don't agree for mutual consent divorce on 01/03/2107 , unless she agrees to your demands. when you dont agree for the final consent on 01/03/2107 the court will have to dismiss the petition.
If your wife files a case of divorce and custody later on interdependently when the present mutual divorce get dismissed due to the custody reasons, you can have the defense as she is having an extra marital relationship which is adultery as per law .when a woman lives in the adulterous relationship she has no right of seeking custody and maintenance.