Hi All!!
I was in a relationship with one boy since April.2015. We were in same organization, even in same team I used to report him as he was my manager. After some time I have changed my process. But we both were in relationship, things were going good. We have decided to marry with each other. we have included our family. Our family met with each other twice. We fixed the date and venue. On Rokka ceremony, we have exchanged gifts, give money to boy and his family as a shagun, clothes, fruits and sweets all are distributed well. After the function, on night we both fought with each other for some silly reason then after 2 day of function, boy told me that my family has matched the kundli and it is not matching at all, I am very disturbed, my mom is not happy with this relationship. When my parents talk to his family that issue got sort out. But after few days boy got changed, I don't love you, I don't have any feelings and all. When I met with all of them then true picture come out. Boy wants VERNA car, they want marriage in five star hotel, they need gold set for his sisters, gold rings for his father and jiju's. When I said I will not able to fulfill all these demands, they abused me, insulted me. I have convinced many times to boy, but he is not ready to listen anything.
I am not fighting this battle for myself but for all Indian girls who are afraid of getting married or who have suffered dowry and all. Its high time we get up and raise a voice and let Justice happen we are girls not born to suffer but to be loved and have respect.
Also I have few questions:
1. First of all this is love marriage, he was with me since 1 year, everybody knows about our relationship, he is agreed for marriage then I told to my parents. We did function in restaurant, give gifts and money to his family and relatives.(Why they did all of this shit? )
2. His sister told me that "300 logo ki gathering waley rokkey toot jatey h ye to bas 30-32 logo ka tha" I mean what to say, if you guys want to break this then why you guys agreed for the function?
3. Boy wording- I can break the marriage before 1 day, shukar karo ki aesa ni kia. Now what to say he is a boy so he can do anything??? jab mann tha mere saath ghoom rha tha..messages ker ra tha..late night talks..mann hua toh rishta b jod lia..mann hua toh tod b diya for some silly demands??...and I cant do anything???
4. Mentally I am disturbed a lot, cant even focus on my work. Everybody asking me what happened to you,you are not smiling, you are not concentrating on work. I was so active girl but after this I am totally broke up from inside. Each and everyday 1 question why I am alive. And being a girl is crime anybody can do anything with girl.??
5. My brother is no more since July 2016, I beg him and his family please atleast now you guys support me, I will try to fulfill, but this time me and family very disturbed we are not in a condition to face my relationship break. We are respectful family and always try to resolve the Hick ups in any relation but that guy and his family are not ready to even listen to a single word.
6. The matter turned into fire when my mother and sister in law abused me like kangli ladki and all..I mean what to say now how they people are?
7. I have all his messages, whatsapp chat, call details and all pictures.
I just want to let them know that marriage is a bond of love and understanding and not dowry. Please help me to get out from this and get Justice.
Earlier boy was making relationships as bf and gf but now they are involving family respect and girl respect and breaking relationship easily.
Asked 7 years ago in Criminal Law
Religion: Hindu
Thanks to all for your prompt reply!!
I have messages n chat of his fake promises for marriage and when we got engaged after two days he changed from all his statement.
1- If I filed the case against them so is there any chances of my image will get down in society?? I want to do all the things confidential because I want Justice only not to show other people and same as to his family I want teach a lesson to them only but confidential so that both the parties images will remain same..!
Even I wanted to sort out all of this within family but they are not listening me and not even they tried to talk to my family and settled down all the things. That's why I want to do legal action.
2.One more thing boy and his family didn't talk to me and my family since one month..are they any chances not informing me n my family and without any settlement..he will get married with someone else?? If yes then what I will do?
Thanks again to all of you for such a helpful advice.
Asked 7 years ago