I am married since last 4 years. From the day one I have having issues with my wife. We were given false information about her qualification and nature. She is being misbehaving with me and my parents. She has mental instability/problem too, she has attempted suicide few times and blackmail me to follow his order else she'll suicide. I have taken her to psychologist and she is under medication.
==Collect all the prescriptions and appointment letters of doctors, emails and other related documents of psychologists and doctors. Send her a legal notice by Advocate, asking her to mend her ways and maintain harmony and peace and cooperate in medication. This will save you from criminal cases, if she commits suicide may be suicide note. If she is not willing to be with your parents, take separate room and you live with her separately.
She is staying with her parents since last 1 and half year and I bear all her expenses. This relationship is draining me up, after several failed attempts to make things work, I have finally decided to get divorce.
==You have to bear all the expenses to the extent of your wife. If you do not pay, she may file case for maintenance. If you want to divorce, send a registered post containing letter of divorce (spelt three times) to her address (parents place). Ensure that it should be delivered to her. Keep the acknowledgement with you. By showing this proof you will get divorce with your Khaji and even in the court also.
The problem is my wife and her family are shameless people, If I try to get divorce (through muslim leaders/group, no legal paper) as mutual consent or one side divorce, they may put a false allegation like dowry, torture etc.
==Until you do not get divorce, they will harass you. But once you get the divorce, they have no authority to harass you as the marriage is broken.
As I am not sending legal paper, only talk to get a mutual consent they may misuse this. What should I do. so that if they put a false case also things will be noted as revenge of divorce.
==No need to give mutual consent. Giving divorce (Talak) by husband is very easy in your Muslim religion. I have already explained you how to get divorce by regd. Post. If they put false case, defend the same. Why do you worry when you have not committed any wrong.