Since both you and your husband are now agreeable for divorce and have already been living separately for around 8 years, your case is legally well suited for a Mutual Consent Divorce under Hindu Marriage Act, 1955.
Different judges sometimes adopt different procedural approaches. One bench may encourage settlement and disposal directly in appeal proceedings, while another bench may prefer that parties approach the Family Court/District Court for recording mutual consent formally under Section 13B HMA. This variation happens because compromise in an appeal arising from a contested divorce dismissal is procedurally different from a fresh mutual consent petition.
The High Court technically does possess powers to record settlements and dispose of matrimonial appeals on compromise in appropriate cases. However, some judges prefer not to convert a contested appeal into a mutual consent proceeding directly and instead direct parties to follow the standard Section 13B route before the Family Court. Therefore, the differing approach of judges is more procedural than personal.
If both parties remain cooperative, the fastest and most practical option is usually:
either filing a joint memo before the High Court seeking disposal in terms of settlement,
or filing a fresh Mutual Consent Divorce petition before the Family Court.
Considering your long separation of 8 years, you may also request waiver of the statutory cooling-off period of 6 months as per the Supreme Court judgment in Amardeep Singh v. Harveen Kaur. Courts regularly waive the cooling period where:
parties have lived separately for long,
settlement is genuine,
and there is no possibility of reunion.
Therefore, if properly moved, divorce within 1–2 months is practically possible in many courts, especially where:
all settlement terms are finalized,
alimony/stridhan/custody issues are resolved,
and both parties cooperate fully.
Regarding withdrawal of the High Court appeal, ordinarily:
if you decide to file a fresh Mutual Consent Divorce petition in the District/Family Court, the High Court appeal may either be:
withdrawn,
kept pending temporarily,
or disposed of in terms of settlement,
depending on the High Court’s directions and the strategy adopted by your advocate.
Usually, advocates first ensure that the mutual consent petition progresses smoothly before formally withdrawing the appeal, so that your legal remedies remain protected until final disposal.
Given your age, prolonged litigation history, and 8 years of separation, courts are generally inclined to facilitate expeditious settlement rather than prolong the dispute further. Your case appears suitable for early disposal provided both parties consistently maintain consent.