Your best option is to shift to another flat on rental basis
start working maintain your self seek order restraining your parents from contacting you
Domestic abuse towards an adult son
I am 36 yrs male. I was working in IT/Software companies before I resigned in 2019-20 due to personal reasons and currently staying with Parents. It needs to be mentioned that parents are economically well-off and Senior Citizenship Maintenance may not apply. I have an younger brother aged 33 working abroad. In 2018, when he was in India for a brief period of time, there was a huge misunderstanding in the family and small tussle with brother. He left again to abroad in 2019. Because of the tussle when he was here, relationship with brother strained since he left. There was not much contact from him even though he was regularly in contact with my parents. He seemed to have informed my parents not to tell anything about him to me. Parents also started hiding matters about him to me and created a barrier. I was deeply concerned about this rift in the family and told my parents not to widen the differences between us. I asked them to talk to my brother to placate him so that he leave off the old fights thereby good relations will be restored. However, not only did parents ignore my pleas but they also badmouthed about me to my brother causing more strain to the relationship. From then on they conveniently started "changing/deflecting the narrative" that I was not interested in seeking any job so wasting time in these matters. They did not understand my goodwill concern of restoring relationships within family and brother and "buried" it deeply with the "deflected narrative" of my not being in a job. They started to talk in a very humiliating manner that you are useless, lazy etc etc. When I strongly and aggressively reacted to this "change of narrative" and humiliation they started saying that I am abusing elderly parents. Last year, when things started to get heated, they left abroad to my brother's place and stayed there for 6 months. I was provided an "weekly allowance" of Rs. 5000/- for which I had to go through lot of verbal abuse and humiliation before getting it. Recently (two months before), they secretly consulted a psychiatrist and I was abducted from home in the wee hours of the night, taken to a hospital and was forced with unnecessary treatments without my consent (injections, tablets etc) which I resisted. Now they are saying that they are going to put body guards at home with a false pretext of "their safety". They also say that they are going to unlawfuly evict me from home and be taken to some hostel. In Western Psychological terms, all the above mentioned acts of Parents amounts to "gaslighting" — a form of emotional torture and psychological abuse involving invalidation, trivilisation, withholding, minimisation, denial, deflection, humiliation, countering the memory questioning the sanity and guilt-tripping. In a world where legal system is tilted towards women and elderly, can a complaint or legal remedy be sought against Parents for their above abuse?
Asked 7 months ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
14 Answers
1. If you think you are forcefully confined in a room then you can take help of the Police.
2. You can talk to a local advocate as well for taking the things forward.
3. Do not waste time waiting for time to improve.
You are an adult and should be able to maintain yourself especially when you're capable of doing job, sitting idle at home and depending on them for your own needs is not justified and not legally maintainable.
There's no legal remedy for this except that you have to change yourself and adjust with your parents because as an adult you cannot demand maintenance also.
You better consult a local advocate in person and look for any solution if available in the practical situation.
Bias being in favour of women and elders, there is not much hope in law. Root of the crisis seems lack of earning. Seek a job so that you need look to them for any support. They will be losing financial leverage and with it much of emotional blackmail.
In such an abusive situation, how do a person try to look after career. I fell that some action has to be taken against Parents so that they realise their mistakes and provide a proper environment. It needs to be mentioned, since they are Parents, breaking away from them is not an ethical option.
Asked 7 months ago
1) your parents cannot be forced to maintain you and keep you in their home
2) you are 36 year old and have to maintain yourself
3) in fact parents cab obtain court orders for you to vacate their property
I am not asking for maintenance which I very well understand doesn't make sense. How do a person search for a career in such a constant abusive situation? I have not been able to resume career after having gone through such an immense torture and abuse.
Asked 7 months ago
Now they say they are not going to financial support as well and have me unlawfuly evicted. Isn't there any way to protect livelihood which was destroyed by them in the last few years. Shouldnt they be made accountable for it?
Asked 7 months ago
Shift and stay in rented flat away from your parents
you are highly qualified and can work
They cannot be forced to maintain you
you have no rights to stay in their self acquired property
There is no compulsion on you to remain in the same house despite being continuously harassed or humiliated.
You may better plan to shift your residence to some other place and pay your rental amount as well as your meeting your expense on your own by getting employed instead of depending on your parents at this ge.
Your parents are not legally bound to maintain you hence any expectation from them will be a waste exercise especially in the given situation.
Don't blame your circumstance or the situation for not pursing your career.
There is no compulsion ion you to remain in the same house in order to pursue your career.
If you have confidence in you to acquire a better career, then you look for one and relocate yourself to some other place instead of being targeted by them very frequently.
Basically you do not have any rights in your parents property, mat least not during their lifetime.
You cannot claim it as a right to stay in their house especially if they are not willing to keep you there in that house, hence if they initiate any action to evict you then you will be liable to vacate or you will be legally evicted by due process of law.
Thus before it becomes too late, ou may better take a considered decision to leave the house on your own to avoid more insults, humiliation and harassment.
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Protection from Abuse:
You can file a domestic violence complaint under the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 (though it's gender-specific), or seek relief under civil/criminal law (IPC Sec. 506 – criminal intimidation, Sec. 323 – causing hurt, etc.) for forced psychiatric confinement and emotional abuse. -
Illegal Eviction:
If the house is ancestral or jointly owned, they cannot evict you without due legal process. You may approach a civil court to seek an injunction against unlawful eviction. -
Mental Health Redressal:
Forced psychiatric treatment without consent violates rights under the Mental Healthcare Act, 2017. File a complaint with the State Mental Health Authority (SMHA). -
Livelihood Support:
While you're not eligible for maintenance under the Senior Citizens Act, you can seek counseling/legal mediation to establish peaceful cohabitation or file a civil suit for psychological harassment if you can show strong evidence. -
Rebuilding Career:
Approach a career counselor, NGO, or support group. Consider remote/freelance work initially to regain financial independence.
- Any legal action, even if available, is bound to widen the rift, which is not acceptable to you.
- There is threat of deprivation of financial assistance, what else option you have apart from earning you bread?
- Law of seeking maintenance is no applicable to adult son.
- Stand on your feet, some time in future they will need you help, you can repay them in same coin.
Yes they can be made accountable for it by legal action against them
Sir/Madam,
Though it may seem leagl and favourable to you, first of all your are suggested to me mentally tough, bold and courageous to face the things. The best thing to do is to come out of the house first and make your own shelter. Because in the situations mentioed by you, it is not safe to be there in the same house as of now. Also, be sure that there are many persons lile facing more difficult siutations and thus no useful in wasting time and resulting no gain.
