• Muslim married man needs divorce to marry Hindu girl

I am shipra, 31 year old hindu girl and been in relation with a 42 year old muslim man since last 7-8 years. He has been married for 9 years to a muslim lady from Aligarh and has a 8 year old daughter. The wife has known about the relationship ever since. We both have had intentions of getting married from the time we have been in relationship.Since about last 4 years Asim has been asking for divorce to which she has not been responding and continued to stay at Asim's place in Delhi. She did not agree to divorce and since last 2-3 years she has been threatening us for revealing our personal pictures in public and insulting us through various ways in society. Insulting Asim's and my family both. In march, Asim had given her signed divorce paper and asked for same when the lady's brother had come over and said she will sign & send back the papers and get back on maintenance amount. Since March end she has been staying at Aligarh with the daughter.Not letting the daughter speak to Asim or any body at his family.IN may she sent a notice for maintenance to come to Aligarh court on 18 th June and when he went there she did not turn up and only his father with the lawyer was there. Nothing happened the lawyer threatened him of cases of adultry, dowry, violence, etc. Asim got the next date and in between the lady's family had spoken to Asim's father threatening him as well of cases, etc. In between a week back Asim had gone to Aligarh to talk to them and when they expressed that they need 50 lacs for the lady, 50 lacs for the daughter, one house and one car.Which is completely out of our possibilty as we both are in service and have limited capabilities with no real estate investment that we could have passed.Post this 2 days back asim & his father again had a call & meeting as well with family where they said either leave me or give what they are asking else they will file for cases as planned against Asim for adultry and also against my father and me.(Is this possible). can they file case at all against my father & me.Also, what is the way we can resolve this. Can i still get married with him. Also, the disastrous part is that they are playing all games on the daughter knowing that all of them will feel for the daughter. They initially said that will get the daughter admitted in school in Aligarh but now on saturday when asim & his father had gone to Aligarh the wife said she is her daughter and they will do whatever they want to do. She said she will not get her admitted to school The daughter's year is getting wasted just in rebellious nature of the wife.She and her father said that When Asim will feel the pain when he will see the daughter in pain and when he will see the daughter's life ruined.then he will understand. What can we do to get the daughter's schooling done.Pls let us know. Then also the next maintenance date was given as 24th July which was yesterday when asim had gone with his father and brother in law.ti which the lawyer at Aligarh told them that they have filed a case of dowry and violence as well where I they have involved names of 3 sister's of asim and his brother's wife as well in this case. Also, when the family got worried and got in conversation with the wife and his father the lawyer and wife's family took in written from asim that " he is taking her back home and all hassles are resolved" this was done forcefully and was asked to do so buy some time till the time asim could think of how to come out of all this than getting arrested. The notice is yet to come as they have intimated that they have filed these cases. It states my name as well in case.the wife has come back to Asim's place in delhi today after 4 months and the lawyer also said till 2-3 dates of these case they will see on Asim's behavior and if all is fine between the wife and him or not that they will withdraw the case or continue with cases and get the family arrested and keep fighting the case. On making the wife understand that even after her returning things between asim and her won't settle as its been 8 years since he has been with me she said she doesn't care and its on her ego that if she can't get him then she will not let asim be with me as well. Pls advice how to save Asim's family, asim and me and how can we peacefully get married and escape from these cases and also how can we send the daughter to school as the wife is not ready to send her to school to trouble asim.also now thy are not even taking about money negotiations despite of on going maintenance case.