I have got married in 2015. I live with my in laws. I also have 2.6year old daughter. My mother in law is the head of the family. Neither my husband nor my father in law can speak a word in front of my mother in law. They both are like her puppets. She is adamant and impatient. She rules over everybody in the house. Her verdict is considered as a verdict of God. Since the time of my wedding, I haven’t been given any rights of daughter in law. She doesn’t involve me in any decision of the family. Whatsoever I do in the house, be it cooking, washing, I’m considered a fool by her. My husband and father-in-law don’t have their own point of view. We have even tried to resolve the matter through the help of family members. I even have talked about the same with my husband but he ignores my problem coz he doesn’t want to get separated from them. Both my husband and father in law see everything from my mother in law’s eyes. I feel suffocated each day in the house. I can’t describe in words what do I go through each day and every second. I get mentally harassed by my mother in law. So I want to know what could be done to put my mother in law on the right track.
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You mother in law can be put on the right track only if you live away from her influence along with your husband. But i don't think that it is possible. Try to take your husband to counselling sessions. Discuss among family members and friends as to how to live separately.
Otherwise if there is no way out you may declare that you no longer serve her and cannot be intimidated like this. If they don't respond leave the household.
You should convince your husband to stay separate in rented flat
2) if he refuses walk out to the marriage and shift to rented flat with your daughter
3) seek maintenance for yourself and daughter
4) you can file DV case seek alternative accommodation, maintenance from husband
For time being you to follow her and think from her point of view, act and walk keeping your legs in her shoes. It may be difficult for you, always think reverse, don't keep ANY EXPECTATIONS from any family members that the will act in your favor.
Remember this line "Nothing is permanent in this world", so you should have should have to keep Patience and cool mind and check what your mother-in-law ... like and dislike.
There are families which is matriarchal and there is nothing you can help in it.
Now see whether her control over the family ruins your marriage or not.
In every household disagreement is bound to happen and this is quite normal.
Now think deeply whether her primacy in the family is bothering you or her intervention is overbearing.
Unless and until she is damaging the love for your husband for you it is better to ignore her supremacy in the house.
1. See firstly talking will help because dragging it to police and court may lead to issues in your married life. Though if issue is not resolved you may file complaint before mahila police station for mental harassment against mother in law. Further on complaint police will mediate if she agrees to mend her ways you may accept same or go ahead with FIR.
- As per Supreme Court judgement, wife is expected to move in with the relatives of their husbands, follow the rules and customs of their home, and ideally, blend in seamlessly as a new daughter.
- Further, as per Delhi High Court , in laws continuous interference in the married life of son is amounts to cruelty , and they should “draw a line” and let their daughters in law allowed to lead a happy, married life.
- Hence, in laws interference in your married life is against the law , and can file a complaint against her .
- If she continuing to creating rift between you and your husband , then lodge a complaint against her after mentioning that she is trying to misguide your husband against you.
- Further, you can also approach court against her under the provision of Domestic Violence Act.
- However, you should amicable settle the matter .
Please approach Police online and FILE FIR UNDER SECTION 498 A against all of them for Cruelty and Domestic Violence with Dowry Demand.
Police would arrest all of them and set them right as per your wish.
File a Domestic Violence complaint against her.
Looks like you are being subjected to tremendous psychological violence at the hands of your mother in law.
To balance the situation, institute a domestic violence complaint against her.
Approach a local lawyer for more help on the above
You have the options to get out of the house and live separately.
If your husband is not cooperating then you may file domestic violence case against your mother in law and also against your husband seeking protection, compensation and monthly maintenance.
You can consult an advocate in the local and proceed on the suggestions received.
You can file a complaint against her and then seek directions of the court. If she harrases your daughter then domestic violence can also be filed against her
Speak with your husband directly, ask your parents to get involved and try to sort out the issue amicably, if it fails go for legal option.
1. You have not mentioned who is the owner of the house. Be that as it may, from the facts furnished by you no act of domestic violence can be gathered.
2. You may persuade your husband to go for counselling.
3. You are free to reside separately from your husband and seek alternate accommodation at your husband's expense by filing a complaint case under Section 12 of DV Act, 2005.
She is in her house, you cant dictate her except she is harasses you mentally or physically. Only if you are maltreated by your husband and/or in laws than court can interfere.
Actual failures is your husband and FIL. And you cannot force husband to live separate from in laws. You can leave them for sometime and put a condition will return only on condition.
Madam,
Really you are passing through the very difficult situation but you are suggested to be ignorant and forgetting nature. Because, it is next to impossible to change the behaviour of anyone and once the things are accepted by your husband and father in law, it is quite possible that they don't want to get into doing the right things and they also might be ignoring the words spoken by your mother in law and for the sake of peace in the family, they might be not opening their mouth. Also, you are suggested to be tolerant and be sure that it may not be legal advice but the life have very colours and it is one of the colour which you are facing today. Taking steps against that may be more painful because your marriage life and other things might be at stake then.
Firstly you can ask your husband to live separately if the situation is worse .and the second and third option can be used if their is no chance of compromise in any situation because if u file any case and move complaint before police then the chances of adjustment with ur mother in law wil be very weak
2nd you can file a case under domestic violence
3rdly you can move a complaint before the police.
1. You can file Domestic violence case against your mother in law for mental harassment against you.
2. You leave your house for sometime and You can also include your family members for counselling to make your mother in law understand your problems in case you don't want to proceed legally against your mother in law.
