What can be done in such situation. She is non cooperative and irrational. If you will insist, she will retaliate. So stop supporting her, as mush resilient you will, she will dare more. Send her at her home for few days.
Fed up with my wife behavior
I have married on 12 may 2018. After two months, My wife and I fight for different reasons, almost in every one or two week. The reason is her short temper, she even once threatened me to commit suicide. I changed my city for her HOME ART CLASSES career and my mother supported for it, because she also wanted to support her. But, she think that if you earn money, it is enough to take respect. If she do any mistake and I try to explain it to her, she become angry and fight with me. She tell that I will not give you divorce, but cant live with you. I also don't want to give divorce, I love her so much, I love my family also, but she don't. We didn't celebrate our first anniversary, because of her anger, and she blame me for that, but the truth is I apologized to her almost 20 times, so that our special day couldn't ruined, she misbehave with my mother also. I belong to a joint family from a small city, but my mother allowed her to wear Salwar Suit in home. But she don't even like to wear other things of a married women, like as Bangles, Payal, Saree. I never seen her wearing proper bangles in the city we live. Even if my mother asks her to wear these things, she don't listen to her. So, after asking her, my mother scold her, so now she don't talk to her. And now, whenever I try to get close to her, she resist. She only say, I will do whatever I want. Will not do anything, you told me to do, even if It was right or wrong. My sister invited us for her birthday, but she refused to go, because I asked her to go in Saree, because my sister in-laws are traditional. What should I do now.
Asked 6 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
16 Answers
Hi,it is advisable to make efforts to improve the relationship,since the marriage may take time to develop trust and compatibility..If nothing improves ,then the only way is that you file divorce petition on the grounds of mental and physical harassment
1) best option is to file for divorce by mutual consent
2) if wife refuses file for divorce n grounds of mental cruelty
3) wife abuses husband amounts to mental cruelty
4) wife threatening to commit suicide amounts to mental cruelty
5) contact a local lawyer
You can file contested divorce if she is not ready for mutual consent divorce.
Compatibility issues are pretty common in every marriage. It'll be my suggestion that it is resolved internally, may be with the help of elders in both the families, amicably.
Having said the above, if at any point of time you believe that it is impossible for you to continue in this marriage, you may seek divorce from your wife.
You can seek divorce on the basis of cruelty. During this, you can also go and register a n.c with the local police station mentioning that your wife is threatening you with committing suicide.
If you do not want to continue the relationship with your wife, better go for a divorce before the family court.
See firstly on the grounds cited by you above like Saree tradition they are no ground of any legal claim it is her own wish to wear whatever she wants though for things like abuse anger and intimidation of suicide you can take steps you can use them as ground of divorce but since that is not your moto seek counselling from good marriage counseller mitigate your differences come on certain point you both can adjust as this will only increase hardship if you don't agree on middle ground
Respected sir..
You have only two options available either to be with her and live your life in a way which is going on in that not only you but entire family will suffer just because of her as she will ruin all the happiness of the family... Second options mind your mind strong and clear and file divorce petition against her she will be on her knees once you took legal step against her.. No need of worry she will do the same until you put pressure over her.. Rest is all up to you make your mind clear and go ahead...
Thank you
You cannot do anything about it becasue her mind set seems to be that anything told by you people should not be listened as it will make her to live like a slave in the house.
She has to be counseled by a counselor to get her rid of such negative thoughts in her mind unless it would be difficult for you to pull on with her in the marital voyage together.
Have patience but get her treated at the earliest before her mindset becomes her character if at all you want to save your marriage.
Dear Sir,
First of all try to convince her that you care for her and then take her to outside tourist places. After that you both shift to separate home on rent and sale your all asset, you leave the job and ask her to work. She will come to know only when she will work and ask her to maintain you. she will get frusted and will leave you one day.
Thanks for the answer. I files a police application that my wife threatened to commit suicide and she has an anger problem. when she came to know that, she called my mother and misbehaved with her very badly, she even said my mother that I am IMPOTENT (Aapka beta namard hai, usse sex bhi nahi ho pata tha, hamari suhaagrat me bhi kuch nahi hua tha, maine kabhi nahi kaha aapse), which is not correct. I had the issue of PE and little bit ED because of depression. I have the phone recording in which she is calling me NAAMARD. what should I do now?
Asked 6 years ago
File for divorce on grounds of mental cruelty
2) wife making false allegations that husband is impotent amount to mental cruelty
See your mother for misbehaviour can also file a complaint for threat and intimidation and for domestic violence and mental cruelty.
You can take ground of crueoty for divorce. You can also file defamation later against her.
the phone recording can be treated as a valid evidence in the court against your wife. But it will require other proof's to show that your were mentally harassed and abused by your wife. .
It is your discretion, if you want to continue with her, you have to accept her in toto and compromise.
If you want to go for separation, the details shared by you and the allegations made by her will entitle you for divorce under Cruelty.
You can file for divorce.
Make sure that, if you file for divorce, you need to prove your case.
You can think about continuing this marriage or not.
If the situation is intolerable then you may even plan to file a divorce case on the grounds of cruelty.