First of all running away from problems/situation is not a solution. Facing with full energy those all problems is your strength.
1) You can send your family members to attend on behalf of you or appoint a lawyer.
2) After requesting to court for first time they will postpone date or you may say that your friend work 2000 km away frim city, is it possible to have video conferencing.
3) Yes. Your friend can directly communicate with honourable court.