• Psychological disturbance created due to love relationship

Me and my girlfriend (Childhood friends) were in love relationship since 17.09.2003
Though I personally talked to her parents but they rejected my appeal in 2015 , Since the girl was constantly harassed by her relatives everywhere not to marry me, she finally decided that she will go along with her parent's decision and marry a person from her own community.Our twelve years (2013-2015) old relationship finally ended.
Now the period from 2015 till 2016 was a horrible period for me, I was shattered, my life completely chagned, many times I tried to commit suicide , I used to stay in my friends house to avoid harming myself. I used to cry every morning and night. My family was disturbed. My professional life was hampered. I was under intense trauma and psychological disturbance. Despite my above situation I did not disturb her
Now at the end of December 2016, we met again and when I proposed her for marriage , she agreed.I was so happy. I felt that she truly loves me and has come back to me after 1 and ½ years of break up. 
She said that in July 2017 we will talk to her elder sister and try to convince her. She further gave me hope and assurance that even if no one agrees we will still marry. 
One night she called me and told me that during our break up period of 1 & ½ years she was in an intimate relationship with one of her married colleague.
I was terribly shocked to know that, because during the period when I was supporting her so madly in instead of going by her parents decision, she entered into relationship with one of her married collegue, but since it did not work they broke up ,She also went to psychiatrist to come out of it. I was just recovering from the trauma of break up, but again her this news broke me completely, but still since I truly love her , I asked her about her decision that what she wants from me.
She said , if I can accept me , She wants to get married with me, to which I replied that If you are really serious about us, then I am ready to marry you because I understand past is past and nothing can be done to whatever happened. Though It was very difficult but I supported her now also.
She met my family, colleagues and friends were so happy about us. It was like we have set an example of what true love is. She went back to her places, everything was fine, but slowly she started behaving differently, she started misbehaving with me, started avoiding my calls. She was casual. She said she doesn’t want to get married.
And now I am again back to same point where she left me 2 years ago, At present I am in intense trauma, psychological disturbance, I am ashamed infront of all my collegues, I now feel that she has played with my life, honest emotions and feelings without me being at fault.
And I think I should get apology from her & make her realise that she has no right to play with my life. 
My question 
what are the action i can take legally , please advice
Asked 8 years ago in Criminal Law
Religion: Christian

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6 Answers

For you've been constantly at your toes for this girl and she on the other hand has been continuously playing with your feelings, and in the process has also injured your reputation in the eyes of your friends and family and have also driven you to chronic health issues; you should send a legal notice to this female asking her to compensate you for the damages caused to you due to her act of defaming you. Also seek damages on account of the health hazards suffered by you.

Also, seek an unconditional apology from her.

Let me if I could be of any help in drafting the legal notice.

Best,

Vibhanshu

Vibhanshu Srivastava
Advocate, Lucknow
9763 Answers
323 Consultations

1. Unfotuantely there is no lw to punish a person for payign emotinally with you.

2. It is good that you have realised her true intention beofre amrriage.

3. There is no guarantee that in love afair the feeling of both the couple would same.

4.in your case you had stronger feeling for her which she dis have for you.

5. it happens in life and there is nothing to be ashamed of.

6.You are good person and there is no crime in loving a person selflessly.

7. Move out of this girl . There is no dearth of good girls who I am certain would fine you one day.

All the best till then.

Devajyoti Barman
Advocate, Kolkata
23647 Answers
537 Consultations

Hiii, legally there is no action that you can pursue against her.. It is time that you should come over her and start thinking about your own life ..not as a lawyer but as a friend I am saying , that you should have parted from her when she accepted her physical relationship with her colleague.. But it is for your own good that God has given you a chance to think again and not to repeat the mistake as you are a man with pure soul and there is no need to cry and feel sad for such a emotionless girl.. Life is much more big and exploring then crying over a emotionless girl.. Do something better in life and move on with it ..

Hemant Chaudhary
Advocate, Gurgaon
4632 Answers
67 Consultations

your best course of action is to forget the girl and move on in life

2)block her number and email id

3) contact a psychiatrst and take medicine for your depression

4) dont enter into any legal proceedings against the lady

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
99755 Answers
8143 Consultations

Hello,

I am afraid but nothing concrete can be done at this stage for the reason that she has not taken your money and she has not violated any penal provisions as of now.

The police will not entertain any complaint with regards to this, however for your satisfaction you can go ahead and try.

Also please try and understand that in such matter you must try and consult things with your family or friends, you will good.

Regards

Anilesh Tewari
Advocate, New Delhi
18103 Answers
377 Consultations

There is no solution for this sentimental and psychological pressures in law.

You cannot demand apology legally from her because the sentimental issues have no place in law and the incidences you narrated here are not offence in law.

If some lawyer assures of you some legal action on this then it is nothing but fooling you for the sake of extracting money from you in the form of fees.

You have to sort out the issues through friends and relatives so that you are not cheated again by her sweet poisoned words.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
89957 Answers
2490 Consultations

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