1) visit a family counsellor with your husband to resolve all differences
2) you can during counselling point out that constant interference from in laws is affecting your mental Heath
3) don't entertain calls from your in laws
Mental harassment from married life
Hi, I'm married for last 10years and been through major health troubles for myself and my husband. My husband suffer from mental disorder which takes lot of effort as spouse to support him morally. Ours is love marriage and there is zero misunderstanding or strain in my relationship with my husband. Although my in-laws don't stay with us, I go through frequent interference and mental torture my in-laws for silly matters in house hold. I'm constantly compared by them with other ladies and get non-stop advice for changing my household/habits. These remarks go beyond me on to my parents who are helping me take care of child when I'm at work. Although I don't undergo any physical harassment, going through constant comparisons, advices, criticism brings down my whole morale. My husband has gone through similar pressure from child hood and got into depression. I'm afraid I shouldn't get into depression due to such constant expectations & complaints from in-laws. I do not want constant stress at my home to adverse my husband's health. There are much more issues I go through from my in-laws which are too silly to even discuss. Being working professional, I'm going through tough situation balance whole life. I love my husband to the core and don't want to spoil future of my 6year old son. My problem is not big enough to go for divorce, but I really require a professional way to manage the tension. Please advice what I should be doing in such situation.
Asked 8 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
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Our law does not discriminates between physical and mental torture and penalises both. Report the matter to the police, preferably through the Female Police Helpline. The Police after registering your complaint would begin an inquiry/invetigation and in the process would question your in-laws. This in itself should dampen them.
Thank you very much..Indeed helpful information for person in my situation.
Asked 8 years ago
Thanks for your appreciation
marriage is a sacred and holy union of husband and wife by virtue of which the wife is completely transplanted in the household of her husband and takes a new birth. It is a combination of bone to bone and flesh to flesh.
Lack of conversation and dealings of situation are changes our life. It’s difficult to suddenly become a part of a new family with new norms and habits, start living with a new set of people and sometimes being forced to make “a show of respect” and build relationships with people we may not like very much. Consult a physiologist .patience is the key to a successful marriage. you become cautious of what you say.you watch your words before speaking, the way you communicate also improves. You not only learn to convey your feelings in a calmer manner, but you also excel in the art of listening.
To overcome the problems you face, you should either ignore their comments and proceed further in yor routine work, or retaliate them with your own attitude and warn them from interfering in your personal family affairs.
If you want to go legal for this then you may file a domestic violence case against them or even can issue a divorce notice to yor husband who will then realise the gravity of the situation.
Dont take everything lying low always, you should stand up and give a fight back to overcome such continuous problems.
Thank you very much..Indeed helpful information for person in my situation.
You are welcome for your appreciations.
You can sit and mediate the issue amongst the elderly members of your family, it s great that you are mature enough that you understand that there is no point in disturbing the status of marital life but at the same time your husband must also understand the same.
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