I am married for 24 years. When I married my wife I was unaware that my wife had a fall on her head from the 1st floor of her School. As a result of this she is unstable in mind, very suspicious, aggressive and horribly abusive. She does not allow my family to communicate nor visit our home. My son who is now 21years, is also effected and is the same reflection of his mother, terribly abusive. The society members are extremely fed up with us, due to the screaming, shouting with the use of filthy words. I tried to stay away from them, by staying in my office for about 3 months. They would come and trouble me there as well. In my office, I have the CCTV voice video recordings of how they behave. It is a very embarrassing situation as my workers get uncomfortable seeing all of this. While she does not allow me to keep in good relations with any of my own, she keeps contacts, receives calls, her family members come & go to our place. She keeps taunting me of divorce. She makes me stand before mahila mandals after feeding them with rubbish. She has taken me to the police several times. She sends a lot of provocative sms's & WhatsApp to me. In the last few years, since the time my son has crossed 18, it is getting very difficult for me to manage the both of them. When I am not around the both of them get into severe arguments & physical as well. If I talk of psychiatric treatment, they get more abusive. Besides them I am the only person at home. I am unable to cope up with the situation. The problem mostly starts with them digging something from the past; without any good reason. They abuse me taking names of each of my family members using filthy provocative language. In the heat of the moment if I use some language in unbearable retaliation, this they will record and try to misuse against me. Every now and then she will call neighbours, phone known people here and there and create an embarrassment and dis-reputation for me. Sometimes during weekends I do take a couple of drinks. Of this she takes great advantage, trying to make our issue as related to my drinking. She suspects me to have relations with other women. She uses names of certain women, alleging me to be having illicit affairs. My in-laws, knowing all of this, to the extent of knowing that their child had a serious medical issue before marriage; in-fact from her childhood, have not been taking any initiatives to help me out. It is not that my wife & son do not want me. It is just that their minds are too full of negativity. Whatever I do for them, they keep finding some or the other reason to abuse me. The situation is too grave for me to handle. It is not something that happens once in a while. This is almost an everyday issue. I would like to know the options that I have. My in-laws are taking it too cool. They are not at the receiving end. I am unable to think of any solution. Can you please advise.
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1) file for divorce on grounds of mental cruelty
2) rely upon audio and video recordings in your possession of wife abusive behaviour
3) if wife files false 498A case obtain AB from sessions court
4) please note that contested divorce cases take 5 years to be disposed of
Is there a process wherein, before filing for a divorce, the both of them are made answerable as to the reasons of their unhappiness. And also my in-laws being questioned for their meddling in our home (almost 3 calls a day since marriage i.e. 23years) and not doing a thing about their treatment. In my opinion the only way I could ever get a solution, is when my in-laws get willing and stop denying that there exists a medical issue.
1) in laws are free to call their daughter when ever they want
2) you cannot force your wife to visit a psychiatrist
3) visit a family counsellor with your wife to resolve your differnces
1. you can take divorce on cruelty ground. tenure of marriage is immaterial. her abusive behaviour is sufficient.
2. you can disown your child, you have such right. you can publish a public notice and disown him. however you can cancel his disownment any time after its publication.
1. Since you are the receiving end you may file for dissolution of marriage on the ground of cruelty. The CCTV footage can be your trump card in the court. However, be prepared to face false criminal cases of 498A and DV which she may file.
2. You may evict your son from the house as being a major he has no right to reside in the property of his parents without their consent.
This is a very hostile situation.
You cannot endure this any more due to continuous abuses and terrorising atmosphere.
In fact you should have taken this decision long back i.e., to file divorce case on the grounds of cruelty.
If on provocation she tries to file false complaint for dowry demand and harassment, you may take AB and challenge them properly in the trial court.
Is there a process wherein, before filing for a divorce, the both of them are made answerable as to the reasons of their unhappiness. And also my in-laws being questioned for their meddling in our home (almost 3 calls a day since marriage i.e. 23years) and not doing a thing about their treatment. In my opinion the only way I could ever get a solution, is when
my in-laws get willing and stop denying that there exists a medical issue.
You have problems with your wife or with your in laws.
If they interfere in your married life beyond any justified reason, you may strictly instruct them to keep off from your personal affairs, if they dont listen then you issue a legal notice to them to refrain from indulging into such undesirable activities which spoils your matrimonial life.
You can proceed with divorce case against yor wife so that you can get some relief after some many years of turbulence or turmoil living together with her.