If she managed to get a FIR registered then you all should get enlarged on bail first and then face her false cases.
On whose name is the property?
If it is in your name, then you say no to mediation.
Let her lawyer say anything, what is you lawyer doing without objecting to their gimmicks. It is not necessary to attend mediation while there is nothing you have to do with their matrimonial dispute.
More so, the property belongs to you, i at all she has any claim she can do it only in the matrimonial home which is the place where her husband residing and not in somebody's place.
You can seek protection under senior citizen's welfare act for being dragged into the cases unnecessarily where you have no role to play
If your lawyer is not cooperating properly or found not to be effective, you can change him for a better lawyer.
You can approach high court for quashing the cases against you for the said reason.