Wife demanding money and gold for accepting divorce
Sir
I am 36 years old Muslim married in 2000, have two kids. I was working in defense force, now pensioner. Family dispute started in 2007, since then staying separately, meanwhile she approached police many times to file false cases against me and my family (at least 4 times). Every time police forcefully (otherwise they threaten me of filing cases) taken in writing that I will not repeat the things (Harassment, cruelty...etc). Then I married a girl without first wife knowledge in Dec 2011. Within three months they complained in my department with all the proofs, and by approaching the second party, broke the marriage. Resulting, I have been sacked on grounds of bigamy from the service on 24 Sep 2012 (fortunately I completed 15 years of service, there by pension) and got separated from second wife. Now, on 18 Aug 2015, I have sent a Talaq-nama (first time) through a lawyer with two witnesses (copy sent to Govt Dist Khazi also). She has received Talaq-nama, but rejected the post containing DD of Mehar amount and maintenance for Iddat period. Meanwhile, they have approached for settlement.
They are demanding,
1. kids will be with them.- I objected
2. 75% of my pension every month to be given to them (which equals Rs. 13002 /- in this month)- I agreed
3. All the gold ornaments given from them as well as from my side at the time of marriage - I agreed (Total 372 g. around 200 g is already with them)
4. Rs. 3.5 lakh cash - which I could not, because I don't have money, I am ready to give 1 lakh
5. All the household items (They sent me out of my rented house, so all the items are already in their possession)- I agreed
6. An agreement for bearing all the expenses at the time of marriage of my daughter (now 9 years old).- I objected
If I agree all the demands then they are ready for settlement, otherwise they are threatening of false cases including attempt to murder case against me and my family.
And the biggest problem is, I am jobless since last 3 years. Because I can not avail ex-service man quota as I was sacked. And no company is offering job because I don't have any corporate experience.
1. Please guide me how to fight the cases.
2. And possible cases against me and my family they can charge.
3. Is my Talaq-nama valid in the court
Asked 8 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Muslim
Sir Thank you everyone for your valuable answers. here is a follow-up query:
can I file a divorce suit, even after giving Talaq notice, before the other party, as they are planning for a private case?
Asked 8 years ago