Dont go any where and stay home. Going there means implicate in false cases.

Refuse to go as they may file false case against you 

2) since they have already filed complaint under section 498 A tell them to send draft of settlement offer by email to you 

3) you can discuss with your lawyer and revert back 

See you your wife can ask them to cut contacts with you also not to visit you for while. Your wife can raise issue her cruelty from daughter in law and can ask.distsnce and undertaking not to.enter your.premises.

Here settlement means to the point of the 498a case and whatsoever points has been mentioned in that 498a FIR all those points needs to settle, like dowry money, gold ornaments, any house property, alimony , one time lumpsum amount for divorce etc. 

So kindly have word with them and what exactly she wants from your and your son. Check what are her demands and give your response after week ask a reply or response time from her about week and think and give reply ot her demands or wants.

Settlement depends on what terms for the same will be done. Like divorce or staying together, maintenance etc

1. a settlement deed/ memorandum of understanding may be executed to avoid future complications,

2. contents of the deed/MOU can be suggested after going through the contents of the matter in a thorough manner,

3. avoid going on there place,

4. take services of any lawyer

You can arrange for mediation between her and you people through the legal services authority.

Any reference can be made through your lawyer to her lawyer and also can arrange for a memorandum of understanding to amicably settle the matter including one time settlement.

If nothing i possible then you may challenge her false cases through court of law by participating in the trial proceedings with the help of a skilled and prudent lawyer.

Hello,

If you are the father in law, dont visit their house and dont allow her to come to your house if the house belongs to you. Lodge a GD immediately with your local PS .

Regards

First you (alongwith others who ever is added) take  bail against complaint filed under 498A.

Further, you do not go to that place, let it be arranged at a common place.

Check with them what exactly what they want, police cannot be witness to such settlement, make sure that you record entire meeting. Upon ascertaining from their version you can take a call.

Do not loose your temper / bad mouth any one, they may also record the meeting, be careful.  As it is, you are staying separately, no harm in staying separately without hurting family members of both the parties.

- since, she has already lodged an FIR under section 498A , hence now the matter will come before the court. 

- Police or Lawyer has no power to cancel /quash the said FIR , but it can be cancelled by the court . 

- Further as you are living far from her , and she is staying since last 12 years in other city , hence this is fit case for quashing 

- However, if you receive any call from the Police in the case , then you should take anticipatory bail from the session court or meanwhile can file a petition for quashing the FIR . 

- Hence, it is not suggested to visit her place. 

if you are ready to go for settlement you can settle the matter, engage local lawyer.

1. Settlements will depend on the situation you are facing and the type of solution you want for the problem

2. If you want your son to be separated from his wife do settlement for mutual consent divorce by paying lumsum alimony to daughter in law. 

3. If your son want to stay in married life then you should settle the terms that there will be no further dispute between husband and wife and no one from both families will interfere in life of husband and wife.