1. Reconciliation is typically done when both parties are mutually amenable and amicable to each others thoughts and views, more so when such things involve emotions & sentiments and further more so when such things are not negotiable business.
2. Once a person has behaved adversely and caused mental & physical sufferings, THEN it is best to abandon such person and move on with life. No amount of any wordings /clauses in any reconciliation statement, can reverse nor assure you of any positive ends.
3. However, despite everything of the past, IF you wish to think positively, THEN you may take an "irrevocable indemnity bond", for a particular sum of amount, which he /family would be liable to, on breach of the reconciliation, where such reconciliation statement would include refraining from any physical & mental violence by him & family, assuring your financial safety & freedom etc....