Better you give NC in police station that your wife's mental conditions is not good and she may attempt to suicide, narrate all above points which you have mentioned above. And tell same to her parents as well.
Married life with legal consent
Dear Sir/Madam Request you to please read the situation very carefully and give a solution. I got married 3 months back arranged through a matrimonial site. Our families are from Allahabad and Kanpur. We both are working in big companies of different sectors in Delhi. After we continued our married life, I came to know that my wife is a big time lier and cheat type in nature. Many small instances occurred which I always ignored. Like hiding things, lying unnecessarily, faking about ex- boyfriends, even I got msg on fb from her office colleagues that she has taken money from them and was not answering their calls. My mom/dads brought up is from a small village, but they are very liberal to her and she was never ever stopped her for anything. She always wear short bodycon dresses, hot pants, and uploads pic on social media, eats non veg although my family is a vegetarian , but she was always supported for everything with full freedom. Few days back, my mother and my younger brother came to my residence in Delhi. After that her behaviour started changing. One day, she complained my mom about me of not giving time to her and not making physical relation with her since long time. When my mom clarified the same with me in front of her, she denied her acquisition and ignored the discussion. Today , I caught her another lie that she has sold her gold chain without knowledge of anyone. When asked about it , she said that it is with her, but when asked to show it, she said that she has lost it. She is a mentally crazy type of personality and sometimes shows completely different type of behaviour. Sometimes screams loudly as someone is beating her, being the fact that no one even touches her. Same happens while she talks to her parents on phone, and they think that her daughter is being tortured here. Will suspiciously go and sit on terrace in the middle of the night, will lock her self in washroom or bedroom for hours. Today after the gold chain case, I checked her whatsapp where I found that she has talked to her office colleague that her in laws are torturing her, not being good with her and will not allow her to live in this house therefore she want to live with her colleague for few days and the reply of her colleague that we all girls are with u, come to office, we will plan something. This all shows that in her office also, she has created a bad myth about her husband and in laws. Now me and family is in fear that she will do something bad with her and we will be in trouble due to some false legal case. Also, she is a professional biology expert, and therefore has knowledge about all the type of poison and their sources. So now I want a written undertaking from her parents accepting that her daughter is crazy and if something happens to her, me and family will not be responsible for it. Is it possible As I’m not at all feeling safe with her to live. But want to continue my married life with her. Wt should I do
Asked 6 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
13 Answers
It's your discretion but such undertaking doesn't have any validity in eyes of law
Your wife appears to be suffering from mental illness and need to consult a psychiatrist for treatment for her illness
2) best option is to file for divorce by mutual consent
3) contested divorce cases take 5 years to be disposed of
4) wife abusing husband, in laws amounts to mental cruelty and is ground for divorce
1.According to your write up it seems your wife is undergoing mental & psychological stress. There is no such law like undertaking by parents as your wife is an adult working at a good position and carrying out all other activities very normally. Marriage is not a legal way of living that if some one goes astray you make a contract to stop that. 2. Be more positive towards her she is not a criminal to garm u & ur parents. With love & affection u can solve your problem. Talk to her, her parents , relative s,friends etc. And find out reason of ger behavior. And help her out from this situation. 3. "
But want to continue my married life with her." This statement if yours shows that u want your marriage ti b stable. So don't mess up with d situations but find a way out.
1. Your wife seems to have severe mental disorder and this can be dealt with only by medical intervention.
2. Go and meet her parents and stating everything inform them abut taking your wife to a doctor or clinical psychologist.
3. If she does not agree then it is better to dissolve this marriage and do this by way of mutual divorce which would entail payment of permanent alimony.
4. Unless she is cured I doubt your marital life can be worked out or not.
All the best.
You want to continue your married life with her but you shouldn't. She is suffering from BORDER LINE PERSONALITY DISORDER. I am stating this this same thing has happened with one of my relatives and tye girl tried to commit suicide too. Then they discovered that she is a mental patient. They are very manipulative promiscuous and can go to any lengths to attract attention.
Hence act accordingly.
Regards
See you can file a police complaint firstly against wife that she intimidates for false case and suicide and further you can arrange a family meeting can ask then to prepare a settlement agreement wherein she can agree that she has not suffered any torture and her parents and she can agree that you have kept her good and if anything happen to her you or your family will not be responsible seeing her behavior .
Sir,
You are saying you are not comfortable with her. You want something like an agreement. You want both to abide by that.
You don't want to leave her.
In case case you can have a compromise in women cell or police station.
But marriage is not like a business contract.
The validity is doubtful.
1. It appears that you are not gelling well in your marriage.
2. Obtaining a document from her parents stating that she is crazy will not safe gurad you in case she does anythinbg crazy with her.
3. Collect evidence in the form of audio/ video recording which will prove that she is not in her proper mental state.
4. It will be better if you can take her to a psychiatrist nd colllect a prescription certifying that she is not in her proper mental state.
5. Thereafter you can lodge a diary with police informing that based on the mental state of your wife, she can commit any act detrimental to her interest and damage her physically.
6. Such acts might safeguard you to some extent in future.
You cannot get anything in writing from her parents the way you wanted.
Firstly they wont admit their daughter's character as portrayed by you.
Moreover it is just three months of your marriage hence any claim made by you may not be taken seriously by others at this early stage.
Your imagination about her expertise in biology and poison etc., are baseless, it may even backfire hence better be careful in such allegations.
At this early stage you can't even take any legal action on her unfounded activities neither you can take a decision to dissolve the marriage, you may have to wait for at least one year to file a divorce case.
Dear client
After reading your whole story I reached on a conclusion that she is going to file false cases of dowry and domestic violence against you and your family.
And my suggestion is that you start collecting the evidences that you are behaving very politely with her and not harming her or abusing her and to prove that she is lying to everyone about you and your family.
Also take her to some psychiatric for counselling about her behaviour if you can
For that you should install hidden cameras in common areas and where she use to scream to show some one is hurting her without any physical or verbal abuse. Cameras should be with voice recording. And start collecting there evidences for your defence.
And one more suggestion from me is that after collecting the evidences file Divorce case against her so that you and your family will remain safe and away from psycho girl like her
Even if you manage to get a written undertaking from parents, the same cannot be used as evidence in court as the can always plead that it was taken by way of coercion.
Alternatively, NCR can be given to the nearest police station stating your wife is threatening you implicate you in false criminal cases and the same can be used in court later on.
- As per the information mentioned in the present query, makes it clear that she has been planning something very nasty and might have some bad plans for you and your family otherwise no wife would portrait like this in front of others.
- I would advice you to not to ask for writing any thing as this would not hold any validity in future before the court to law if she happens to file any false cases against you.
- Rather, I would advice you to play smartly and try to record her behaviour on some occasions.
- Also try to talk to her personally and record that why is she behaving so strange sometimes despite the fact that she has got everything and every kind of support from you and your family. This would help you in future.
- Rest, you are free to call me at any time for further legal assistance.
