• Relationship breakup

I was in a relationship for 5 years till 2015. My parents were against love, so I told the boy I can’t marry him and he was convinced and told me to just to talk as he was unable to move on. But whenever he got drunk, mostly everyday he used to abuse me over phone. He used to blackmail to defame me if I ignore his calls or him. This continued for 4 years. I used to bear all the non sense and I used to feel guilty becz of my wrong choice. Now he called me and started asking me to marry him. If not, he is blackmailing me of posting our pics together on social media and make sure that no one will marry me. I told him I don’t love him anymore and don’t want to be with him. I have seen his another side and I m afraid of spending my whole life with such a person . 
Do I have a choice of marrying someone I want to? Or as per law, if I was in a relationship I should marry the same guy?? How to deal him if he blackmails me every single day??
Asked 6 years ago in Criminal Law
Religion: Hindu

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13 Answers

1) Before he can defame you why don't you go and make police complaint against him for mental harassment and torturing.

Ganesh Kadam
Advocate, Pune
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267 Consultations

Hi,

It is not necessary for anyone to marry a person who is not compatible for life. So, you have to be bold and tell that person that you would take legal action against him if he is repeating his threat or blackmail against you. In the meantime, you may send informatory application to police regarding his activities. You are free to marry a person of your choice and live a peaceful and happy life.

Ganesh Singh
Advocate, New Delhi
7169 Answers
16 Consultations

  1. Your marriage is your prerogative. No one can compel you to marry or not marry or marry any particular person. So don't give in to the pressures of your blackmailer or your parents. 
  2. File a police complaint against the blackmailer

Netra Mohanchandra Pant
Advocate, Navi Mumbai
1590 Answers
5 Consultations

Yes 

No need to marry.

Posting of photos on social media against consent is punishable

File Criminal case through local lawyer for harassment.

Deepankar Kataria
Advocate, Delhi
194 Answers

1) file police complaint against your ex boy friend for stalking under section 354 D of IPC 

 

2)if he is threatening to post your intimate pictures online file police complaint against him under section 67 of IT act 

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
99776 Answers
8145 Consultations

Yes you can freely marry another person there is no boundation to marry him. In case he blackmails you file a police complaint against him for intimidation. 

Shubham Jhajharia
Advocate, Ahmedabad
25513 Answers
179 Consultations

You should approach to Police Department to register the FIR against your Ex-Boyfriend who has been attempted repeatedly to contact you to foster personal interaction despite your clear indication of disinterest and threatening you to expose your pictures and blackmailing to you. As it is an cognizable offence punishable under section 354 D, 506 and 509 of IPC and Section 67 of Information technology Act. 

Mohammed Mujeeb
Advocate, Hyderabad
19325 Answers
32 Consultations

No there is no compulsion to marry that guy.  You can file a complaint against him for blackmailing and threatening you. 

Prashant Nayak
Advocate, Mumbai
34514 Answers
249 Consultations

Nothing as such, his act amounts to stalking and punishable offence for molestation. Complain the police, will issue prohibitory order and repetation will land him in jail.

Havig a relation dose mean you are bound to marry him/her and free to move on as and when like. Non can be forced to act against choice in such matters.

Yogendra Singh Rajawat
Advocate, Jaipur
23079 Answers
31 Consultations

Absolutely, you have full choice of choosing the correct life partner for yourself.

You cannot be coerced by him to marry you. 

Report him to the women helpline cell of Hyderabad Police. Share his phone number, address and other details with Police. Share any evidence with the Police that you have with you demonstrating that he has been consistently harassing you.

Vibhanshu Srivastava
Advocate, Lucknow
9763 Answers
323 Consultations

  1. Mam, please don’t even think that there is a law which says that you will have to marry this kind of a man who not even deserve you and respect you.
  2. Its your life, you gotta decide how to live with it. Think twice before taking any foolish step to get married to him.
  3. I would advice you the way to deal with it, you should file a police complaint of having an apprehension on this man that he might do something on social media or otherwise to ruin your life. If police doesn’t look into it then please let me know here, would tell you the next step.
  4. And please, not being an advocate, but as a man telling you to not to think about this man as someone with a very good heart and etiquettes would be waiting for you.

God Bless You...!

Sanjay Baniwal
Advocate, South Delhi
5477 Answers
13 Consultations

Dear Madam,

First you have to calm and cool. be relax.

you have to sit and think, do u need him?, take your time.

if he loves you truly, he wont do like that

but now he is telling like that denotes he is a psycho

it is a crime too, without one permission , nobody should do like that. it is an illegal also.

if he blackmail again, record it, and complaint to the police station.

1. Make an audio recording while he black mail you and hand it over to the police.

2.Dont try to handle the matter by yourself alone . Talk to your parents or some responsible authority you can trust. It is better to tell your elder brother or parent before everyone around you knows about it.

3.Try consulting SNEHA's PVWC Program or some other organisation.

Netravathi Kalaskar
Advocate, Bengaluru
4951 Answers
27 Consultations

Having relationship with another person is not a strange thing in Indian atmosphere and it is not mandatory that the live-in partners have to marry each other, there is no provision in law for this set up.

If his tortures are not tolerable, you may issue a legal notice to him warning him from indulging in any such illegal activities including threatening you or else he will face legal actions through court and police.

You can even lodge a criminal complaint with the cyber crime police about his threats to publish the photographs in the internet.

 

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
89978 Answers
2492 Consultations

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