1.Counselling is done to avid conflict.The proofs if any placed beofre it is not taken into account and hence irrespective of number of counselling sessions the wife can still lodge case and register FIR.
2.Mere education is not enough to avoid maintenance.You will have to prove her job and income.
3. This is permissible.
4. Police cna straightway register FIR but there is little chance of your arrest,more so, if you participate in the investigation on receipt of nptice u/s41aof crpc.
5. Contest separately as per its respecitve merit.
6.Engage an advocate,he would guide your everything/
7.Talk to IO and place your evidence before him.