Emotional abuse from short tempered wife and in-laws for 5 years
It is said "Marriages are made in heaven" only when it is amongst 2 souls - who vowed to stay together despite all odds & accepting each other as they are till their lifetime. But in our country nowadays, marriages are held between 2 families & it is truly difficult to please every single one there. However, I seem to have lost this game since last 5 years & is presently suffering from severe emotional/mental/psychological abuse from my Wife & In-Laws.
I'm the only child of my parents & my parents have always longed for a "daughter" who would be with them & take care of them in my absence. So, we unanimously informed my in laws that we won't accept a single penny or any expensive gifts/furniture/vehicle/grants for my marriage. Mine was an arranged marriage legally registered on 23/09/12 & I socially got married on 23/01/2013. Immediately after the legal marriage, we exchanged gifts with my wife & in-laws during the Durga Puja of 2012. Thereafter one day, my father-in-law called me with my parents to their house & humiliated us there stating that we should have gifted my wife (would be) a saree instead of a Salwar Suit. Due to this, we have actually insulted them in front of their relatives. This was the beginning of my so called Married Life.
My wife is really impatient, short tempered & misunderstanding in nature from the very beginning. Now, may it be a love or an arranged marriage, it takes some time for both the families to understand/adjust to each other. My parents could never crack a joke with each other in presence of my wife as she would misunderstand that they are getting sarcastic with her. She used to become violent verbally & start abusing my parents (& sometimes even me). Many a times, me & my parents have tried explaining her that she need to be patient & stop misunderstanding us as we have no intention to humiliate/abuse her. But she opted for the opposite way rather. Many a times I have approached her parents to make her understand but they have always taken their daughter's side without listening to me or understanding my situation.
In May 2014, I got blessed with a baby girl & now she is 3+ years old. My parents took absolute care of her (during my office hours) for her entire tenure of pregnancy & always kept her at our apartment rather than asking her to stay with her parents. My daughter is also very very close to my parents & can't live without them. But with time, my wife became so severely violent towards my parents & myself that she used to abuse/insult us almost daily. Numerous days I have taken leave from my office due to her. I even suffered a professional demotion due to all these ongoing mental trauma. On 20th April 2017, she abused us in such a way that I asked her to leave my parent's apartment immediately for an indefinite period unless I procure a new apartment for her.
Asked 7 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
Finally, I visualized that this is going to impact my daughter's growth there & peace of mind, well being to my aged parents. So although it was next to impossible, within 2 month's time, I took a brand new apartment (on 3rd July 2017) & parted away from my parents (although I have never ever thought of doing so). So as to keep my parents safe from my wife's violence during office hours. My parents never visit me there at my new apartment.
Even now, when I'm living away from my parents and sometimes pay a weekly visit to them with my daughter, my wife gets ferocious & violent. If I get a phone call from my parents, she looses her temper. Is there a way out for me to get rid of this situation ? Are all laws in this country meant only for protecting women ? Men are only considered as "money earning machines" & "a dominative gender" ?
Please help ! This is a distress call !
Asked 7 years ago
Advocate Sethi, what is the procedure to file a divorce case on grounds of mental cruelty ? Where should I start from ? Should she ask for a lumpsome amount from me for signing the divorce ? What about the custody for my 3 year old daughter ? How can I guarantee that my wife & her relatives won't cause any harm to me or my parents after/before the divorce ?
Asked 7 years ago