• A girl is blackmailing me

I have a long-distance relationship, my girlfriend is from other cast(while my family doesn't support this). First we met in our college, bt there was no friendship that time. After i got placement in Bangalore and i shifted there. One day she messaged me at night, and we started talking over phone, thus we came into relationship from that day. And it has been apx 3 years, bt i was never talking her everyday. But from December 2016 , she sent me a message for her love, that how much she love me and she cares for me and i don't time for her (She said). I said ok , she is serious, i promised her to talk everyday. Now it has been 6-7 month with talking , Now she is forcing me to marry her quickly in December 17. While i am saying her that i am the only son in my family, i have a elder sister, my father doesn't have that much money, so i have to help him for my sister's marriage.
M i wrong? But she is not understanding this , and saying me all the time that she will do something(Suicide). And i am scared that her parents also know that she talks to me,she has my contact . So i am saying everyday ok i will do something, i actually i can't . I can't fight with my parents if they wanted to do the marriage of my sister 1st. What should i do, now she's threatening me everyday, I am getting upset, my mind is not working, my job is also getting affected. Please help
Asked 8 years ago in Criminal Law
Religion: Hindu

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1) you cannot be forced to marry the girl against your wishes

2)you did not have any physical relationship with the girl

3) inform her that if she cannot wait till your sister marriage she is fre to marry another guy

4) you can block her number

5) dont bow down to her suicide threats

6) if she harasses you file police complaint against her

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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1)the girl shared adult pictures on her own

2) you have deleted these pictures

3)you should not face any problems . you were just friends not lovers .

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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Hello,

No there is no problem as such however I would advise you to bring this issue in the knowledge of some elderly member of your or her family so that they can make her understand the things and could give her a good counselling session. Rest legally you will not face any immediate problem since there is no physical relation between you two.

Regards

Anilesh Tewari
Advocate, New Delhi
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you have taken right decision to concentrate on your work only

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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M i wrong? But she is not understanding this , and saying me all the time that she will do something(Suicide). And i am scared that her parents also know that she talks to me,she has my contact . So i am saying everyday ok i will do something, i actually i can't . I can't fight with my parents if they wanted to do the marriage of my sister 1st. What should i do, now she's threatening me everyday, I am getting upset, my mind is not working, my job is also getting affected.

If you are not willing to marry her or not interested in marriage now, then you should have stopped talking to her, snapped all yor ties with her, blocked her calls, etc. But you continued to talk to her every day for the reasons you know better.

Now also you seem not to have informed her about your difficulties or unwillingness to marry her.

You do not have courage to tell her.

The choice before you to avoid getting into any legal complications is to write to her father stating that you were friendly with her over phone whereas she misunderstood that for love and is forcing you to love her and marry her soon for which you are not inclined. But she is threatening to commit suicide, hence you cannot be held responsible if she commits suicide.

You can endorse a copy of this letter to the local police station too.

This may bring some relief to you.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
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I did not have any physical relationship with her, just we met once in her city for a movie, and she started kissing me, thats it. Also i want to say that she shared me some adult pics of her via whatsapp few time back, which i didn't have on my phone(Deleted) , i have nothing to do with anything now, Is there any problem with this?

This will not create any problem.

Moreover such meetings are usual among friends, maybe between boy and girl friends.

It would be her fault for having sent her nude pics hence that cannot be considered as an act of promise to marry her etc.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
90162 Answers
2505 Consultations

I already told her elder sister about this issue (that my family wants my elder sister's marriage 1st). And she said that she has told this thing to her mother. And she will talk to her. But because this thing happening from many days(now months), so today ,i have blocked her from everywhere, as i am tired now by listening all those blackmails. I want to concentrate on my work.

The best way to tackle this is to write directly to her father about her attitude and threats that she poses. You can put a disclaimer for her acts in the same letter and endorse a copy of this letter to the local police station to. This move will certainly make them to think about all such things which would bring disrepute to their family name .

You should simultaneously inform your parents also about this to be on the safer side.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
90162 Answers
2505 Consultations

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