• Girl friend harassing mentally

My girl friend has been torturing me mentally since a year. She lives in chennai and i in hyderabad. She wants me for her all the time even when I am working. She humiliates me in front of teammates and friends and creates a disturbance every now and then. She abuses me wildly even in public saying very wrong things about my parents and myself even for silly reasons like not picking up her call or why my phone was busy etc. She doesnt respect me at all. And if i dont go by her rules, she calls up my friends and abuses them saying that they are the reason for all the trouble. She is very arrogant and a skilled liar. She has assaulted me few times as well. She is going through some mental disorder. She also threatens me to do suicide every now and then. I also informed the same to her parents, they even tried to make her understand. However, she was adamant on whatever she believed and wouldn’t stop abusing me. Her parents have accepted that she is wrong and a psycho. However they arent able to do anything as they stay in a different city. On knowing that I informed her parents, she flew from chennai to hyd and started assaulting me in front of my friends. I suggested to sort this out by talking to our parents and meeting them all at one place, but she denied. I tried to break up and blocked her calls, but she again flew from chennai and she jumped off my apartment gate and started assaulting me again, She then called the police on me. I informed the police of the possible situation before hand but police took her support and took her complaint on me saying i dont want to marry her. Police couldnt do much as it was middle of the night and there was no lady police officer. They forced me to compromise with her. My society asked me to vacate the apartment. I am facing lot of embarassment and being harassed mentally. She even forces me to stay in living with her and registry marraige her and threatens me if I don’t do so, then she would forcefully come and stay at my place. Our relationship started from a sexual relationship with both our consent. I clearly informed her that i would think about marraige only after 3-5 years and that to if my parents like her. I have explained lot of time that if she behaves in such a psycho way, its difficult for us to think about marraige, I tried to break up with her in multiple instances but she then creates lot of disturbances and embarassment that i am being forced to give in. I have tried everything in my reach to handle this situation, however, this is pressurizing me to the extremes. I am not able to handle this anymore. I am being forced to give in to her demands and false accusations. I have tried everything to get rid of her or give her the medical attention she needs, but this isnt working. I am very much depressed and getting suicidal thoughts. I have all the required evidences/witness as well. Please suggest.
Asked 8 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu

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Matrimonial life is for homogeneity and companionship. A wife is considered as half the body of her husband, equally sharing the fruit of pure and impure acts:- whether she ascend the pile after him or survive for the benefit of her husband, she is a faithful wife.As per your query the relationship with girlfriend become worst every day due to behavior approach and Egos. With out respect and companion ship ,love and affection no family life leads in prosperity.So think do you continue the relationship or not ?

Having sex with a girl on the promise of marriage and later refusing to tie the knot on flimsy grounds amounts to commission of rape particularly when the boy from very inception had no intention of marrying the girl.A case where the girl agrees to have sexual intercourse on account of her love and passion for the boy and not solely on account of the misrepresentations made to her by the boy or a case where a boy, on account of circumstances, which he could not have foreseen or which are beyond his control, does not marry her despite having all good intention to do so, has to be treated differently . If fully grown up girl consents to sex on a promise of marriage until she becomes pregnant is promiscuity. Having sex with a girl on the false promise of marriage and later refusing to tie the marriage knot may amount to commission of rape, particularly when the boy from very inception had no intention of marrying the girl.

If your girl friend committed suicide and left a note against you then you can be arrested under section 306 of ipc for abetting to commit suicide. In case if you had physical relationship with her , you can be charged for rape on her complaint and for breach of promise of marriage.

if she does not leave any note but her family and friends in their statement give your name as the cause of your gf suicide then also you will be in trouble .Even if she commits suicide without taking your name & some body informs police that you are responsible for her death, then also you will face serious problem,

What you can do ?

Register a police complaint regarding threatening for suicide, as suicide is a criminal offence police will take action.

File a police complaint against the girlfriend and inform local inspector local police station that this girl is having suicidal tendencies and her threat against you also informed that you should not be held responsible in case such a thing happens. Inform the same to her parents and also to make her to attend counseling.

Break the Relationship soon

1. You should never have made any promise of marriage.

2. If you do not want to marry her then you should not have continued this relationship. Before putting a person in such emotional turmoil you should have kept the uncertainly of marriage shared with her

Ajay N S
Advocate, Ernakulam
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1) file suit and seek restraint order against your girl friend contacting you personally or through emails , calls , messages etc

2) under no circumstances marry her . you will ruin your life if you marry her

3) since she is suffering from mental disoirder she needs treatment for her mental illness

4)block her calls and take job in another city

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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You should not such negative thoughts of committing suicide etc.

You should gather courage to tackle her.

Her pressures and tortures are temporary.

She will stop contacting you if she is diverted.

Inform her parent about her such acts and ask them to hold her back lest you would be compelled to initiate action against her for creating problems and nuisance to you including intimidation and threats.

You may also issue her a legal notice instructing her to refrain from indulging in such undesirable activities or else you would be forced to initiate legal action by both criminal and civil laws.

This would have some impact.

If possible you may look for a job outside Hyderabad and migrate to some other place where she would not be able to trace or track you.

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
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your parents would not be dragged into any case filed by your girl friend

2) your girl friend may file case of rape against you under section 376 of IPC

3) in defence take the plea that it was consensual sex . no promises of marraige were made by you

4) shift to another city . obatin court orders restraining her fgrom contacting youa s advised earlier

5) you can file police complaint against her for criminal intimidation under section 506 of IPC

Ajay Sethi
Advocate, Mumbai
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First of all she may lodge a police complaint in the place where she now resides or where you are currently residing and not in the place where you have migrated.

In this there is no question of dragging your parents because ther is no marriage between you that there is a relationship between her and your parents.

Moreover you cannot be forced to marry her just becasue she had been friendly with you or there is no necessity for you to marry each and every girl you had been in friendship.

Next time when she threatens, you may issue her a legal notice instructing her to refrain herself from indulging into such undesirable activities of forcing you to marry her or threatening you to slap false criminal cases if you do not accede to her demands etc., and can warn her that you would initiate proper legal proceedings against her for such illegal acts both through criminal and civil laws. You can endorse a copy to local police

T Kalaiselvan
Advocate, Vellore
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