In this scenario you can seek the permission of the court to be represented by the pleader under Section 205 Cr.P.C and it is the discretion of the magistrate to grant you till until required for you to appear in the court. In this case, as both of you are ladies; transferring may be a problem. It is better you appear on first date and take steps as suggested above. Better option would be to settle the case; if possible. thanks.