Hello,
Talk with your friends and relatives, find out the person who is close to your wife and attend a counselling session .
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Trauma of wife and blackmailing with depression cause
I have been married since 7 yrs and have 2 lovely daughters. My wife is unable to forget the miniature past bad memories of my mother. Though my mothers nature is somewhat strict , and sometime or many a times since I was unable to handle her ego. We had fights at home and huge huge clashes. I suffered and finally me and wife ith kids moved out fr joint family. Though it was a painful decision for me. Now staying apart also she is unable to forgive or forget them for the least minimum things. Even my family is ready to acccept and apologise a lot and have even done tht. Still she is disagreeing. Now recently i told her not to take their name or think about them even a bit. Leave them alone. Still she cant come back and started to do trauma. She blackmails me for suicide and calls me 1000 timesin office. She wants to take a revengr theough me and i have to go againt all of them. She wants me to be blunt at them and speak to them fire them. For which i am not ready. I even did this few times still she has a resetting mind. I took her to psychiatrist last week. But she doenst even trust them or their medicine. Help me to get out of this. All the family and even ber family are in support of me and are fed up of her trauma. She always compares things. I am Fed up and cant focus on work and life.
Asked 5 years ago in Family Law
Religion: Hindu
15 Answers
Sir your query is more of medical in nature your wife need regular care and counselling you have to take some pain take her regularly for counselling session as depression is an mental disorder and it can happen to anyone the best thing you can do is keep her calm, regular counselling and care she will be good.
Further in case you want divorce from her can file a divorce on the ground of the cruelty by wife and can contest same that she has separated you from parents and other grounds further she can ask maintenance since she is not earning.
But i would suggest with your support and psychological care she will be good divorce separation will further increase your problem only.
File for divorce by mutual consent
2) pay her ageeed amount as alimony
3) if wife refuses divorce by mutual consent file for divorce on grounds of mental cruelty
4) wife constant threats to commit suicide amounts to mental cruelty
She needs counselling. All this keeps coming back to her because she must have suffered a huge deal of trauma.
I'll advise that you attend a coupleof joint counselling sessions with a marriage therapist.
This does not needs any legal intervention at the momemnt.
family disputes between husband and wife is very commom in india.
when any one approaches to judiciary regarding family disputes court directs them to mediation,
Mediation is a way of resolving disputes between people in conflict, usually facilitated by a neutral person. Separated families are encouraged to use family mediation to help resolve their disputes about children, instead of using the family law courts.
1. The actions of your wife is certainly no conducive for a healthy married life and if after your concerted effort to make her see reasons she does not agree to mend her ways then it is advisable that you move on in your life by dissolving this marriage.
2. So take her to holidays trips and spend some private moments to know and sort out her difficulties, if any.
3. if this fails then it is better to propose her for mutual divorce and if she refuses to agree for the same then file a contested suit for divorce.
4. The grounds you have mentioned are if proved will entitle you to get a decree of divorce.
Good luck.
This is my response to you:
1. First and foremost both of you should approach a marriage counselor;
2. If that does not work out then appoint a mediator (from legal field) and try to settle your disputes;
3. Even if then it does not get resolved then approach the court for mutual consent separation and then divorce;
4. Last method is to file for contested divorce;
5. Therefore take steps accordingly.
It has strongly set in her inner mind hence no ordinary treatment will make her to come out of this problem.
She has to be treated by a psychiatrist or a psychologist to overcome this problem and till then you cannot find any solution to this.
Legal solutions may not repair the damage.
You can talk to her parents and live her at their home for few months because change of atmosphere/circumstance may bring some desirable changes to her present mindset.
Firslty, Sir, I may say that yes you are going through a bad time, but you need to understand one thing that she also had a very bad past with your family.
Secondly, though it is also correct that you also tried everthying to let her forget the bad memories.
Thirdly, I may advice you to lease look after her as you been doing since long.
Fourthly, have faith in God, and try to pacify her whenever she needs it.
Hi,
Rather than legal advice, the psychological counselling and other will do more benefit in this matter. You are advised to take some break and let her out from all sorts of trauma.
Hii
Legally their is not remedy for trauma..
But if you stand for this you can give her notice and file for judicial separation
I took her to a psychiatrist and also counceller. He said she is suffering from mental disorder and needs treatment and medicine. Though my wife agreed for medicine that time but never took it regularly. When i asked she says doctor is immatured and he was not able to motivate me or encourage me even. And told that she is feeling such distortion of mind many times. Some time she is vvv good
Asked 5 years ago
Obtain psychiatrist opinion in writing that wife is suffering from mental illness
2)file NC with local police station regarding her constant threats to commit suicide
Obtain psychiatrist opinion in writing that wife is suffering from mental illness
2)file NC with local police station regarding her constant threats to commit suicide
Hi,
Going out of legal complexities, I will advise you to take a break from normal affairs of life and take your wife to some tour etc. of her choice. Further, you will be the best counselor and mentor for her. Spend quality time with her and try to avoid all talk related to past events and family members.
The mental disorder problems may not be a constant incident.
However it cannot be said that she is perfectly alright.
It may recur any time and then there will be the problem being repeated even more aggressively.
You may decide to continue with the married life with her anymore or not.
Sir if you can cope up with the situation you can ask her for the better medication and take care of her if not then her reports from the counsellor and psychiatrist can be is used in the family court proving her mental condition