Iam so depressed with my wife behaviour

I made a love marriage same age we both we are both from traditional families, iam a private employee and she is in central govt, she is good after marriage as the days pass, life changed like nothing is important to her behind her Govt Job, she gives important to the job more than a family and relationship, we are joint family, my mother was bared her with lots of patience she used to shout for small things in the home a big mess happens monthly thrice. she dont bother who is in front of her what relation they are to her she just speak so worst all the time when speaking with me or to my elders, my home turns like Hell, a As days passed we got a small cute baby, she got so possessive on baby now, she behaves like baby doesnt belongs to my family, all the rights she only have she behaves like this, i say dont shout in front of baby, she doesnt bother she keep on shouting infront of baby. Due to carona i lost my family business and job too, my financial came down to earth, now her feeling she is feeding us we need to take care of baby like care takers. she keep on caling after going to office too. i try to tell her parents about her condition, there parents too shouts on us. i supported her in all manner, she also supported but im not able to continue with her shouts. i cant continue more and more with a shouting lady, she doesnt give respect to my family traditions and members. Govt job is her guts. she can live without anyone is her guts. please suggest me what to do, baby we have, i cant leave parents because of her. they are50+, i havent expected she would turn like this poccessive ness