Divorce

I have been married for 14 yrs and I have built a home with husband. The land receipt has his name on it but it was a contributing effort. He wants me to stop hanging with my friends and even accused me of being with one because of village rumors and old talk. However it is ok for him to hang with his friends. After completion ofthe house his mom moved in. She contributed about 20% of the epenses. His mother has been doing things that i donot approve of and hedoesnt see what i tell him what going on and we have been having disputes consistently. Because of myjob he was the man dealing with purchasing material with my money but bills were madein his name. Because of this I have very little proof of my epenses. He says we are no longer in a relationship so I told him file for the divorce but his mother saying he dont have to. He havedrinking issues and involvement with bad company and he beleives I shouldnt say anything about it.What is my situation when it comes to my rightful share of the house. And seeinghe dont have to file what is the best way forme to continuewith my life.This means living arrangements in the house and dateing? I have always taught the man was incontrol and thehead of thehouse but now giving him power to do these business arrqangements now has come tobite me.