Emotional torture from wife

Hi all , Ours is a love marriage and are married for more than 12+ years now with two kids both below 6 years. First 6 years were smooth and when she delivered our first boy the issues started. She started feeling superior and started crossing all her boundaries interms of not allowing our parents , tagetting my mother and creating issues so that next time they won’t come to house or talk freely with me, she started having fights with my friends wife’s so that I will not be talking to them anymore , she tried to control every aspect which I felt as mine. Initially I thought it’s just fun ans was okay till she escalated things to that extent I started taking it serious. Now my situation is no one really tries to even contact me, help me or ask me how I am doing . My family has completely ignored ne they are not even bothered to give any thing to me or my kids thinking she will create a mess. We initially contacted a counsellor with her consent but when he started pointing out problems on her she hated him as well and started abusing me for letting him do that to her . She has a weird nature , she can’t establish relationship or bonding. As a machine without any emotions she just cooks same food everyday abd force kids to eat it and also the quantity they are left with no option other than completing it , poor souls I feel total anger towards her , how can any one be so stubborn towards her own kids . She want them to play or even pee in the same time without even asking if they want to or not . Literally I am at lose of words explaining her mentality . How can anyone live without talking , doing same work everyday , eating same food for years , not exchanging any emotions , not allowing anyone to speak , she even stops physical connect as per her wish , for months I am suffering with that. She can’t or neglects the gestures . No asks no concern nothing she is just doing what she wants to do abd no one should question her. Everyday we all have to listen how much struggle she is going through for serving us without her we all would have died long back . I have almost locked myself in a room and stoped going out in living room , she wants to feed kids with same songs everyday and he can’t turn his head or can’t have food with fun. My elder son has developed a kind of hatred towards food and he just can’t say if he likes it or not. She created fights by saying negative about me to her family and negative about them to us and created a kind of hatred between each of us. Hope someone can really understand what we all are going though and I personally want to file a case of mental tourtière against her . Please suggest the best approach.